This is my first time on here or any other site. I have been with my husband going on 13 years and during that time I have felt our marriage falling apart, mainly because of trust issues and I can't seem to get past them. Most of the time I feel like I have a roommate instead of a husband. We are on totally different pages on many issues that are important to me and it creates problems when having discussions. I'm just very tired of the whole thing and just thought it would help to be able to voice my dissatisfaction to others who might be feeling the same way.
vikings63 vikings63
51-55, F
5 Responses Aug 16, 2014

There are 2 parts to trust in a relationship. The first is how your partner acts with other woman. If he is continually flirty or has affairs then it is not possible to trust him. If he only focuses on you and is loyal and faithful in action and deed then it is up to you to work on your trust. If either of these things are broken then it will not be possible to save your marriage without a positive change from both of you. Hope that helps. Take care.

welcome to EP

must be lacking in care

Maybe you should go to counseling. You may feel the need to invite him but maybe not. Go by yourself or with him if he wants to. You should discuss this with him. Communication is paramount at this time.

I am divorced and I hate it. I wish we could have done more to stay married.

Why don't you trust him?? Has he cheated on you