KING Size Bed-- Only Me.

MY WIFE AND I HAVE BEEN MARIED FOR A LONG TIME. SHE WORKS NIGHTS AND I WORK DAYS. FOR A LONG TIME NOW SHE SLEEPS ON THE COUCH IN THE LIVING ROOM WITH THE T.V. ON 24--7. I SLEEP ON A KING SIZED BED IN OUR MASTER BEDROOM. WHEN WE DO SEE EACH OTHER, I REGRET  THAT WE JUST ARGUE. I'M NOT SAYING THAT EVERYTHING IS HER FAULT, BUT AFTER YRS. OF BEING YELLED AT-- AND  SHE YELLED AND SCREAMED SO MUCH THAT MY DAUGHTER AD MY 2 SONS LEFT.  OH!! NOT AT AT THE SAME TIME, THEY STILL LIVED WITH US , BUT IN THEIR OWN ROOM UNTIL THEY COULD GET ENOUGH MONEY TO MOVE OUT.

I AM STILL HERE----BUT EVERYTHING HAS AN EXPIRATION DATE.

vetro vetro
51-55, M
5 Responses Feb 27, 2009

Wow; some good comments here.<br />
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I also believe there's no excuse for abuse, and that we should do our best to assert this in a positive way.<br />
But I also believe that people should not give up too easily.<br />
Many people leave marriages that could have been the best thing ever if they would just stay committed to each other and what's best for ALL concerned.<br />
But then many people stay when there's no point.<br />
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I gave my wife so many second chances over the eight years we were married, but she just couldn't seem to stop having affairs. There were seven that I know of. One of which was with my Brother! That one really hurt.<br />
But still I gave her one more chance. And nothing changed.<br />
I had worked on myself long enough to know that even if it was my fault in the beginning, it definitely wasn't by the end. And her first fling was only three days after we got together! Not enough time for her to feel any lack of anything had there even been one. I found out about a year afterwards.<br />
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So by the time my ex-wife had her last fling, I'd definitely had enough heart-ache. I left immediately.<br />
That was ten years ago.<br />
And my ex still makes it difficult when I want to see our Daughter. I think it's out of spite.<br />
There was never any chance it was going to go anywhere of value. But she was my wife and I'd sworn a Vow. I do not break such things lightly.<br />
But it had been undermined and broken beyond repair before it was even sworn. Once I was absolutely certain of this, I could leave with a clear conscience.<br />
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I believe my ex-wife was in love with the idea of being in love- not with me. Many people are that way, both men and women.<br />
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But if there's a chance at real happiness, it's worth working towards.<br />
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I'm saying neither go nor stay. I cannot advise on a situation I know so little about. I write this in case it helps you clarify any issues and whether they can be overcome or not.<br />
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Good luck Vetro.<br />
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Best wishes,<br />
M

I wish my husband would sleep on the couch! Going to bed with him means a quick kiss and an emotionless "I love you". Then he spends the rest of the night snoring while I am constantly waking up. My husband doesn't yell but is a know it all. Everyting I do he would do different. He is also a control freak. I love the comment about the expiration date. You're right and my hubby's is coming up fast. I'm just not ready to accept the rest of my life without sex.

This sounds exactly like my family. My parents have been married for over 35 years. They drifted apart.What I know for sure is they'll be there for each other as time ages them. Not b.c of love but obligations. :-(

I feel like this is how my dad feels because my mother does that and my sister hates being home because she yells a lot. I live away from home and every time I go home, I feel like I need to leave again. They always argue. I feel bad for my dad but I also feel bad for my mom because she comes home from work all tired and has to cook food and do the dishes etc. Both of my parents work hard and I wish they could just find some time to sit and talk about what is happening to their family! I miss family moments a lot! I hope you and your wife get closer together so that you stay strong!

I'm sorry. But please don't give up. Seek counselling, it might help.