I am just feeling so bad right now. Just moved to a new state, struggling to work on our marriage (long story), I haven't met friends, haven't found a church, been rejected from almost 50 jobs so far. Yesterday my mother hung up on me. Then I spoke with one of my sisters and she just got all mad and started yelling at me and I told her that I had to go. And I am dealing with my father's death just a few months ago. I don't know where to turn, what to do and don't have anywhere to go. I am alone all day and when my husband comes home he says all he did all day was talk and he wants to sit quietly and watch tv. I have finally found this place because I have no where else to go. And I'm worried that I won't be able to find it tomorrow when I log on!
Sunnybrookk Sunnybrookk
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7 Responses Aug 19, 2014

I feel for you Sunny. I am a single mother with no extended family or friends living in a country I never grew up. Like everyone else who has encouraged you, I think the best thing you can do is to find a nice church. It should not be so hard, even if you have to travel a bit do that so that you can get away from feeling imprisoned. Through the church, you can find good souls, and then who knows, may be a job that will keep you going.

Always remember, this pain and despair will pass, like everything else, it will pass.

Try and find something inspiring , like fall in love with the nature, go people watching, take a walk, hug your self, just try and zone out. I have been doing this for the last 7 years of my life.

God Bless, and wish you well.

These are all great things. I do find it hard to go to church - it gives me time to think about how alone I am. I don't know why, but I just haven't signed up for any classes (yoga, etc). I think I've had such a bad year that I am still trying to process it all.

Could I please ask you why you are scared of being lonely. There is a difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Have you ever wondered the serenity that can come with that hurt. I had to force my self to love to be alone and then it became very blissful. Wise men say..that disappointment is a sign of a healthy soul. Learn to embrace the singleness. Embrace the beauty and the pain that comes with it. It is a good time to look back and re-evaluate your life. It is not easy, I know. Try to find some volunteering work, if that helps.

The lesson that came through being secluded, is to be able to accept that loneliness is a part of our soul too. We must learn to build a relationship with it. L and L

:( hope things pick up sunny, keep doing your best to get out there, churches can help alot! feel free to message me if you want to talk sometime :)

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I'm sorry for your loss, all of them. Welcome to EP. Laugh at our pervs, poke at our trolls and enjoy yourself. Good luck in your job search.

Thank you all so much. We moved to a smaller community and I have found a church but people seem to have their groups. I've been through so much rejection that I really don't want to get out and risk meeting people. When my husband travels he doesn't call or text and at times days pass before I even see anyone let alone have conversation.

So happy to hear that the clouds are parting for you and you will see some sunshine!

Try to find a nice church.. you will find someoen nice to hear and help you with your worries.. and you know, sometimes from church community later on someone might help you to find a job as well.. just stay strong and try to find good place for help... people are busy and sometimes dont find time to each other.. im sure your mother and sister love you, they just have their own worries so they may not always be able to help with yours...
I wish you strenght and best luck!

I started Bible study the second week out here but being a smaller community, people have their friends and you just aren't included in things. I have since volunteered for a week of VBS and did the summer study but still no friends.

Oh, don't get me wrong, some of them are friendly but they just don't think to invite you. Everyone is always a little leery of the new person. After all, they don't know anything about me and I have been through the hardest things in my life and some days I still feel lost.

It's ok. We'll be here with u always remember that ur not alone. God bless. :)

I only hope she's ok! It's nice of u to talk to her too :) god bless u all

This has probably been one of the most comforting replies I've had. Just to know that I'm not alone means the world to me!

:) no ones actually alone cuz I'll be with them always even when I'm gone god's still with them :D

it could always be worse.