I'm lonely, well, I'm alone that is, physically, for the most part anyway. But I feel fine, but there's this part I me that thinks I shouldn't feel fine, but I do. I've never had a girlfriend, and the longer I live, the more I think I never will and the more I think that I don't want one. I'm a very "cautious" person. I won't make the same mistake twice. I will cut someone out I my life in order to avoid making the same mistake twice. Part of me thinks that if I got into a relationship I would have a great time and it would go perfectly. But another part of me fears it going to well. As a single man now, I could not imagine being stuck with the same person for my whole life, and I'm way too nice to ever break up with someone. So, I stay out I relationships. But should I try it once? I don't want to, I fear that If I put that much of myself into someone else's hands that they will take it from me. That's why I stick with "low risk" relationships with guys. And I love my best friends, more than almost anything, and I fear that if I put that kind of love into a women that she will take it, not for any reason in particular, just because **** happens. Another part of me thinks that if I get into a relationship, and it ends, I will want more of it. But right now, I've never been in love with anyone, so how can I miss something I've never had. I'm happy, and I know what I want to do in my life, and not one thing requires me to be in love. So why try it? I know I can be happy without love, I've done it so far, although there is a long journey ahead of me, the hardest of which is coming soon.
Lateralus07 Lateralus07
22-25, M
2 Responses Aug 21, 2014

Don't worry so much about this. You are reasonably happy right now, and you are still VERY young. There is NO pressure to be in love and acquire a girlfriend. Many men have physical needs that are unmet....that is no reason to go rushing into a relationship, where you will likely hurt someone quite badly just so that you can have sex.

At some time in your future, you will meet a woman and you will not be able to think about anything else but her. She will capture your attention, and she will capture your heart. You will know she is the one for you. When you find her, treat her with love and respect....and let her know she is special.

Thanks truly, but I'm high so who knows what I truly think. Or maybe that's what I actually think. I'm saying this while drinking and smoking weed, and then bam, hey hey what can I do by led zeppelin comes on

Ur not alone, I can see myself there in 20 years.

I respect that even though you don't feel fine you SAY you do that's good.

I do feel fine though, I am happier now than I have ever been. And it could be false happiness, but why ruin it unless I'm sure. I see several different lives I could lead, and the ones I want the most do not favor a partner. Some would say I'm afraid of commitment, but I would say I'm afraid of blocking out opportunities that I want now.
The main reason I even think about this is because of my friends, my friends seem to think I should get a girlfriend, just because it's "normal" and because they have one. But I don't feel it as normal.

why don't you see it as "normal"?

See what as normal? Having a girlfriend?

I mean like do you not desire women at all?

I mean forget "normal" I mean as a person do you not but value on relationships and women? I should say.

To add to that, I don't get depressed hen I think about being lonely, some people on this site post about how lonely and depressed they are, but those two things don't go together in my head

you're blessed they don't go hand and hand in your mind KNOW THAT.

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