Nobody Would Notice Me Missing!

It's taken me nearly 50 years and lots of internet sites to realise that I am not the only one like this. How can there be so many lonely people on such a crowded planet?

I am alone 90% of the time I have to myself. People around me all seem to chat and have some sort of interconnection which I just don't share.  If for some reason I am in a group of strangers all is well at first but as they get to join up or pair off it is always me left alone.

I don't argue or fall out with people, I am just sort of insulated from them.

I am so sad when I see or hear other people make social arangements which never include me. 

I would love to have some friends to just chat and share things with but it just isn't meant to be.

SiouxC SiouxC
46-50
5 Responses Mar 19, 2009

"I would love to have some friends to just chat and share things with but it just isn't meant to be." Exactly! I don't have social anxiety like someone else wrote. I have no problem speaking or performing in public. I enjoy speaking with others. I just can't get past the hump where it is just acquaintances getting along to actually becoming friends. I've done the join a club suggestion. It's always the same. We get along just fine when we are doing club activities; but when I suggest we do something away from the club together on our own time, either people will promise & then are perpetually busy so it never works out or they come up with excuses to not get together beyond that social environment. Plus then that person tends to avoid interacting with me afterward.

I completely understand...people do that to me all of the time...and then they say it's because Im supposed to invite myself over or just show up...Im sorry but I don't do that...I figure if they wanted me there that much they'd invite me regardless.

I hate to be negative, but you may have a mild social anxiety.<br />
Or, as I have experienced while living in the south, an expectation of not having the slightest thing in common with those around you.

OMG! You took the words right out of my mouth! I figure it's got to get better someday, the sooner the better! <br />
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Take care

Don't worry:) I'm in the same boat as your are right now, bud. You'll find people, eventually. It 'll take alot of motivation and hard work, but you can make things happen. That's why humans are unique, because we broke out of the natural order of life, and made our own universe. There's always somebody out there to chat to, and if you ever want to talk, I'm right here:D. Peace.