I only really have two female friends. One i met through an ex's friend and the other through my old work place. They are two very good friends though but one of them has moved to australia for the year and i miss her so so much. The other works a regular 9-5 and i work mainly nights so hardly see her. Her boyfriend works away during the week so she spends time with him on a weekend so i cant even see her then. I have associates at work and Uni but they're not proper friends, not people i can talk too or have a lot in common with. I just sit at home and watch movies and just hope my phone rings or i get an email or that some bloody prince charming will ride through my front door in a mustang and drive me to somewhere happy. I'm just so fed up and i just want 2 be out there having fun. I lost my childhood and school friends because when we left school they all had babies and had no time for me. I'm the only one left without one! They're totally different people now. I get upset when i think about the little friends i have and keep thinking maybe it's my fault. I think i am a lovely person and i am not bitchy in the slightest. I am a loyal honest person and i do make a great friend. People just don't seem to make the effort anymore. We're all becoming more isolated as a nation. Everyone is seperating into groups and social status's and it's like people without a 'brand' don't fit in anywhere and i feel like that. I just need face to face interaction before i go crazy and become a 'crazy cat lady' (f.r.i.e.n.d.s fans will know what i mean)

SammyCymru SammyCymru
22-25, F
5 Responses Mar 22, 2009

I can send you some cats if you are interested in starting. I swear I started out two years ago with one cat. ONE little furball of fun. I don't know what happend but now I have 7. Okay I have an idea of what happend but that is another story. Hang in there my friend your prince charming is out there. Don't give up on him yet.

You are too young to be a "crazy cat lady".<br />
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You are right to want to enjoy your life, don't worry about the friends who have chosen early parenthood. Find things you like to do and make new friends.

I know what it's like to lose friends due to changes in life, location, or personal relationship. I met my wife online via ICQ, and emmigrated to the U.S. I felt this was the right thing to do at the time, because it would give us a better chance for building a future together. While we've achieved some of that, I've been feeling isolated the past few years.<br />
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I can count my CLOSE friends on one hand, and it doesn't take many fingers. I do my best to keep in touch with my friends from Canada, where I'm originally from, but email and telephone doesn't always cut it.<br />
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Compound that with be unemployed, and stuck at home, which is VERY rural, 30 miles from a real "city", and this feeling becomes even more profound.<br />
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I've learned to just take it day by day, and I try to forge new friendships whenever I'm given the opportunity. Hell, one of my closest friends is 30 years my senior! Don't let age be a barrier. That's probably one of the best pieces of advice I can give you. I try to be as open as possible in my friendships, and really look at people as who they are, not what they look like, or how old they are.<br />
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I have a 400 movie DVD collection, so I can relate with the movies comment. ;)<br />
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Hang in there. Take it one day at a time. Nothing worthwhile ever came easy or quick. I'm not super comfortable with "blind introductions" either, which explains my arrival here. If you remove the physical barrier sometimes, it can give you access to people you never had before.

i feel like that too (about the intentions of friends), i feel like some are not being honest with me. I try to make new friends by making the effort to stay and talk to girls at work about anything and everything but some just think its because i got "other" intentions if you know what i mean. Can't win lol it's just nice to know they're are places like this, where you can bare your soul a bit and find people who know what you are going through.

I feel very similarly... although I do have a group of 'friends' through school that I see a fair bit of, I have this nagging feeling all the time that they don't really give a damn about me or want to really know me. I just feel isolated even when I'm with other people. The worst part is I'm not sure if I'm being paranoid about their intentions or not!