Sometimes Being Alone Doesn...

Sometimes being alone doesn't really affect me or at least I think I tell myself it doesn't lol. Sometimes knowing I'm alone is one of the worst feelings imaginable. I know that I am a very difficult person to handle so I understand why I am alone a lot of the time. The older I get the more I realize that companionship and knowing someone is always there having my back is important. I hate not having somebody I can just call up and say "hey let's go...." and we get up and go. But I don't let my feelings of loneliness cloud my judgement as to who should and shouldn't be in my life. I rather be my myself than surround myself with all the wrong people.
hotmess hotmess
26-30, F
11 Responses Feb 1, 2007

When I read this, I had to double check the name to be sure that it wasn't something I typed in my sleep. Yes, I agree with you that it is better to be alone then surrounded by the wrong people. I don't think that an occasional conversation with the wrong person is a bad thing, but stick to your guns, to what you want, need and feel right with. You have the confidence to protect and believe in yourself and the strength to be totally independant. When the right friend is made or comes along, they will admire that.

i kinda feel the same way but i think i do need someone there for support. i know im young but i want my special one now.

Thanks for your story. You do have some good points. I do however miss terribly hanging out with my old friends and doing things with them or even just talking with them on the phone. I am going thru a divorce and moved out from my husband and two girls. It hurts like hell. I miss my girls and even my ex(sometimes) terribly. I have a few friends and am trying hard to make a few more good friends. I am trying to just be happy with me and sometimes I can be , but mostly I just have this ache in my heart that won't go away. Keep on writing, Hugs to you GG777

You know, you are exactly right. It is better no one than to have friends who use you or do you wrong. Sometimes you have to think, maybe you have a friend looking out for you, and its you.

I feel the same way in some respects. I'm lonely in the sense that i have no "close" friends who I can confide in for matters of importance. Like you, I believe it's better to be alone than surround yourself with the wrong people....people whom you know aren't good for you or who just don't understand you. It's difficult at times, but there seems to be no other options.

I feel the same way in some respects. I'm lonely in the sense that i have no "close" friends who I can confide in for matters of importance. Like you, I believe it's better to be alone than surround yourself with the wrong people....people whom you know aren't good for you or who just don't understand you. It's difficult at times, but there seems to be no other options.

I agree..I understand....I feel your pain. I recently went thru that same experience. I met a man thru an online dating site. We connected really well. He just seemed to be a really good guy and all. He mentioned to me on a few occasions how easy it was for him to be "open" and communicate with me, and how emotionally connected he felt with me, etc. He all of a sudden tried to rush our "physically meeting" in person (even though he told me that he would be patient and would allow me to decide when we would meet). All of a sudden his patience became short-lived, when I did NOT agree to meet spontaneously on a particular day. I told him that we could meet the day after. To make a long story short, all of a sudden, I started feeling sort of disconnected from him. He suddenly became UNcommunicative...like a totally different person. This infuriated me because I started feeling like I had wasted so much time "getting to know him" (on the phone) and to no avail. As a result, I said some negative things to him becuase I was very hurt. I did apologize for the things that I said (even though I felt provoked), but he ignored me. He never accepted my apologies, which I had to leave on his voicemail. Big mistake...I'll never do that again. I am human though...we live and learn. Never received any type of response...almost as though he was shunning me. It left me confused, angered and hurt. I'm slowly healing from this.

i agree with you....

i'm alone so much of the friggin time and even though i've truly grown to HATE it, i'd still rather be alone than around people who don't compliment me or my life in some type of way. that sounds kind of selfish but, screw it. it's my life. and, YES, i think we all get to a point (no matter how FIERCELY INDEPENDENT any of us are) where we begin to really realize that the most beautiful part of most any experience we have is when we get to share it with someone else. i don't even have any real friends anymore....even though i long so deeply for companionship (and not just romantic,) it's a pain in the ***, going through the motions of getting to know a person, making an investment in them and then winding up having all that energy go to waste because so many people are so RUINED and apparently incapable of being compassionate. woops....started ranting, sorry.<br />
i feel the same way as you!

I just read your article and I feel the same way sometime except I think being lone is better for me. I can not take another awful relationship. You se I haven't had alot of relationship but the few I have had I am always the one that lose out. He always walk away without any hurt any pain he just find someone else. I know that it has bee said that their is a differse in being alone and being lonely right now they seem to be the same with me........................

I am with you on this one.