Someone Please Read.

Hi there



I too feel lonely and lost. I have a good job and lots of money. I work in a stimulating and fillfulling environment and now 8 weeks after mny relationship ended I am lonely and lost.

IFor me i is not about love although like everyone else I want and yearn for that but about connection to the spirit and to each other.

My partner was unavailable emotionally and I deserve better than that. Like all humans (and animals) I need to be seen, acknowledged and validated. I need someone to laugh with me, cry with me and see me as special, someon ewho is comfortable with me and can call me "the old china" loved and appreciated despite the cracks an chips.

Today I received my new camera which I had carefully chosen. I was excited and looking forward to receiving it, but there was no one to share this excitement or to delight in my joy. I didnt bother to open my package.

I spoke to my ex-partner but he couldnt understand my loss or disappointment. He shut off (as usual) and told me to study the operating manuel.



I rang my daughter who lives in a different city and decided to open the parcel with her. When my mother was alive I used to make christmas cakes with her through our phone contact. We enjoyed that so I thought I would ask my daughter to assist me with opening the parcel and share my excitment.



To her credit my girl did just that and then the conversation turned to her hurt over her partners emotional unavailability. Like mother like daughter. I feel so sad for her and tried not to influence her. But of course by example I have done just that. I wish I could have been a better mum to her so that she wouldnt have to go through the pain I have. I am not feeling sorry for me nor sorry for her. I just wish it could have been different so she wouldnt hurt so much. I know I did what i could at the time as best as I could. The problem wa sit jsut fell short of the optimal target

Hi I just wanted to say that I joined tonight after typing I'm lonely into Google. I have been alone for 7 years now and I think I know how you feel, My ex-husband and I decided not to have children and I so regret that decision now--but at 43 I just hope that I can meet someone some day too, Hang in there...it doesn't eel like it will get better, but everybody tells me it will and in the past when I thought it wouldn't I met and married the man of my dreams, so it is possible,

a very big hug for you,i really feel you,peace and love

You will probably never read this but I think it is beautiful the way you express your angst. I also believe that you are on a path to happyness because you have reached that point in your life when all seems lost, and it is when all seems lost that we are found. I envy your tears for I have not been able to cry even though I too am at a very low and lonely point in my life. Be in good faith that fate will bring that person into your life, that person who is so lonely and starved for affection as you are and when you meet it will be wonderful. I pray for that for me and for you. Please stay on the road of life, keep walking dont stop, your destination is just up ahead.

Don't worry.Life is a struggle.Whatever you expect is given away by a lot of people.You can start a life with your own soul.Every body is mortal and nothing is immortal.Your charm of beauty and body can remain forever.If you are caught again in a grip of a man eater person,there will be no chance for you to start a pure life.Try to concentrate your mind with practicing meditation .You have to think about only yourself.Consider your body elements comparing your thoughts of dreams.Cool down your self.Believe in your self .I know you.Be Happy.

Don't worry.Life is a struggle.Whatever you expect is given away by a lot of people.You can start a life with your own soul.Every body is mortal and nothing is immortal.Your charm of beauty and body can remain forever.If you are caught again in a grip of a man eater person,there will be no chance for you to start a pure life.Try to concentrate your mind with practicing meditation .You have to think about only yourself.Consider your body elements comparing your thoughts of dreams.Cool down your self.Believe in your self .I know you.Be Happy.

Hello, I just wanted to comment and tell you that you are not alone. I, along with many others on this site I'm sure, feel the same way you do. That's one great thing about this site, we can all come together and help each other out, and better ourselves in the long run!



It will get better with time. Sometimes, when you least expect it, someone comes running into your life and irrevocably changes it for the better. We unfortunately can never know when that will happen. But what we can do is keep that thought in our mind that we WILL meet someone eventually, and never let that hope die, always hold onto it.



Give your child a big hug when you see her. Show her the love you want to have yourself. I guarantee she will return it, and help you cope until you can meet someone.



Feel free to message me if you ever want to talk. May you have better days!

I just found myself randomly typing I am lonely on google and that is how stumbled upon your story. I can relate to you in so many ways that it is not even funny. I wish I were articulate these feelings but i guess I will never be able to do that without debasing myself in my own eyes that is why I post this comment anonymously. I wish I was strong enough to actually overcome these terrible feelings but i guess I am not but I hope someone would actually see through my little charade. I have never met a single decent man in my entire life; my dad walked out on us, my brother used to give me the most savage beatings of my life and I guess there is something about my face that only attracted douchebags but despite this the crappy part is I'm still optimistic to the point of foolishness. So you are not alone we all are sailing in the same boat and I feel good knowing that I am not either and I really hope that you'll find someone who loves and respects you and your little girl :)

I just found myself randomly typing I am lonely on google and that is how stumbled upon your story. I can relate to you in so many ways that it is not even funny. I wish I were articulate these feelings but i guess I will never be able to do that without debasing myself in my own eyes that is why I post this comment anonymously. I wish I was strong enough to actually overcome these terrible feelings but i guess I am not but I hope someone would actually see through my little charade. I have never met a single decent man in my entire life; my dad walked out on us, my brother used to give me the most savage beatings of my life and I guess there is something about my face that only attracted douchebags but despite this the crappy part is I'm still optimistic to the point of foolishness. So you are not alone we all are sailing in the same boat and I feel good knowing that I am not either and I really hope that you'll find someone who loves and respects you and your little girl :)

i have read your article and

wish i could reach through my sceen and give you a hug just at the moment you needed it and for every one else that needs one visiting this site i have been i that place where a simple reasuring pair of arms around you would make all the difference to the moment of lonleyness right now i am in a better place and want to send everyone who is in need a warm cyberhug with love knowing that your not ever on your own love is there close to you you just have to open your heart to it

doubt it makes you feel much better, especially a few years after the fact,....

but i understand, and i hope today finds you in a better place.

your story particularly captured my attention because tonight, i too, typed 'im lonely' into my address bar and hit 'enter' ...

I bet you love your daughter, though. I bet she makes you aware of what is important. I bet you love her because she IS, the way you ARE. We are all,....love.

Just like you, I typed into google "I'm lonly", this site was my first choice, and your story my first click. You are not alone, and I send you hope for a better future. Huggs ....

I am right with you J. I am so lonely i can hardly stand myself. I have been trolling the dating sites and absolutely nothing other than guys wanting phone sex. I miss my ex. He can't give me a reason for not being with me other than "I just don't think we are right for each other." It was so nice having a taste of a healthy relationship until it is taken away. I feel as useless as ever.

If you ever feel like you are not loved go and look at that sweet little girl. Even at the worst times in your life, she will be there to love you. She is love in the purest form. Just remember you will find someone one day. But until then, you have a beautiful little girl who loves you.

I am so sorry. I am 44 and married and yet feel completely alone. In fact I feel more alone with him then I do when I am by myself.

Maybe lonliness is something we have to fix inside us. What do you think?

If anyone knows how, speak up. Some times the loneliness is so thick I can't breathe.

We are in this together.......does that mean we aren't alone?

hey sweetie all though I am a bit older then you don't mean much because I no how you feel because it just me here as well although my son lives here he's grown and does his own thing, I am still lonely and looking for someone to hold as well take care of yourself and good luck.

In loneliness we hear all the echos of life, loss, failure,and love past. Loneliness is a magnet pulling all the lost chances, missteps, near misses, short-falls and impossibilities so close we are paralyzed instantly. Why can't loneliness be a catalyst for positive self reflection and self examination leaving the loss, longing and loose change in the past where it belongs? It seems like a chronic inflamation: go along just fine for a day or two and suddenly there is a gut-punch throwing us back to the darkness of loneliness. Suffering is instantaneous. Unrelenting. Then some mundane task or everyday life cracks the egg and we slip back to ok for the moment.



I don't know about you, but I'm settling for ok for the moment. And when the fog engulfs me (as I know it will) I say ok. It won't last long and I know I'll see the light again. I hope you do too.

Hello J ,

Put your arm out and reach outwards and to the side, i will do the same , now we put our arms around each other and give each other a big hug. Make this last for as long as you want, i will be there to hold on to you and not let you go until you say so,. I can feel the tears pouring out on to my cheeks , I will dry them off and replace them with a loving smile, can you now feel the love streaming into your body , replaced with overwhelming feelings of joy and happiness, because someone cares, really cares. i feel full of sadness for you but now dont , feel the love off me draining into your body, Dont let go, Dont let go, .this is real, as for the hose, money career, these are only cosmetic. .

I will hold you now in my thoughts, PAUL xxx

*Hugs* U r not alone. Loneliness is nothing new to me. I've lived with it all my life. Just know, that there is someone out there in a much worse situation than you. You are strong. And u knw it. If the years have gone by and yer still around then wut does that tell ya? Cheer up. :p

life is **** but is a lot more pleasant if u have someone to share it with i feel the same way im lonely and i wish i had someone to talk to

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i know its not likely you will read my comment as you have so many but i know i young but im very mature i grew up with a different life than most kds and ive learned from it i feel for you and would lov e to talk

I know. I lived and was abandoned by my mother as a baby and my father left me at age 15 for a mail order bride in columbia. I started sleeping at the local parks and then basements and made my way up. Alone the entire 11 years and it has started to change this past year. I was sexually molested and physically abused while being assualted many times on the street. I know, I even went into tackcardia due to a "heartbroken heart". Connect to your higher self, your spirit self through inner light and self love and compassion. I have yet to embrace love or affection, attention but have acomplished alot with courage and strength, inner strength:)

dont give up hun keep going and yea i know how that desperate feeling is and want something to just work out and i do find ppl who leave over fights stupid because fighting is part of nature but that shouldnt end relationships atleast i dont think so if i ever had a fight i always try to work things out no matter how bad they can get and im someone who will never leave.. but just dont give up and go go go ^^

When I read your post I was thinking, Did I write this? Until I got to the part about you having a little girl. I have a 3 year old boy. Be comforted to know that you aren't the only one who has googled "I am lonely". It was how I found The Experience Project. I too would give up everything for someone to love me but I realized, it is not love I am looking for, I have that. My son gives the best hugs in the world.



I need companionship and someone to talk to. Someone who understands me. I need to step out of my comfort zone and try meeting new people. That has been the hardest experience for me especially as a single mom with a 24/7 child. It still is a big challenge.



Finding this site however has been a god breeze. It gives me comfort to know I am not alone. You are not alone either.

I know what it feels like to be lonely i have 4 kids but all are grown and a few have their own families so i dont really interact much with them i dont have any friends except here on this site,and my wife passed away in 96 but iam really tired of being alone so much i dont have a car and town is about 5 miles away and no bus service here so i just lock myself in my little room and think of what to do but what i really would like is to find at least one friend near me that i could talk to and go to dinners and movies with but after surviving two cancer operations within two years of each other i think i wont ever have the chance to meet someone its really hard being alone at times i wish the world would just end.

I know how you feel. I just recently moved out of our house and left my wife as I caught her cheating on me. I know there was a reason for it, while I was able to show lots of affection to her I was unable to satisfy her sexualy. I am not what you would call a "stud" I am very underdevloped and I know she had a hard time with that. I am thinking now that no woman would ever be satisfied with me so why should I deny her satifaction? I am going to call her today and beg to return and tell her I will no longer stand in her way if she decides to have other lovers. I just want her to be open to me about that. I guess I need to talk to someone to be able to accept sharing her. Except for the sex part our relationship is good, something I should be happy about. I also am unable to father children and I know she wants some. I know sooner or later I will have to accept that she will carry another man's baby. I have to go now and call her. Wish me luck?

I pretty much did the same thing a few minutes ago... I googled I am lonely... I had about three months as best friend to a great guy.... but then his old girlfriend called and wanted to come back.... they had been together for a year so he let her and I haven't talked to him in a week... i had been lonely for years before I connected with him.... so now I am back to sad.... I do have 4 kids too and love them and I am involved with their school and activities but it's not quite the same as having a loving relationship with an adult.

I did enjoy the laughter and the time on the phone and the physical contact of warm skin and loving hands.... it was fun while it lasted.... and life goes on...

OMG! Our story is so similar xxx ii have a 1 yr old daughter and its just the two of us xxx which is VERY LONELY! ii dont even have friends xxx ii messed things up with my daughters father and although we were really good friends after our breakup xxx things are so diffferent now xxx hes not my best friend any more &&& he was the only one ii had left :(