Recent Heartbreak... Need Help

i dated a guy who told me he wanted to spend his life with me everyday. one day he wakes up and tells me "i have to focus on my career, but we will get back together." I still would see him everyday, and then after waiting for a month he says "I can't be in a relationship right now." After a few weeks of not seeing him (and him remaining single) i start seeing him every week. He acts affectionate at times and at one point tells me we might get back together. Then after 4 months he gets a girlfriend out of the blue. He didn't tell me anything to warn me, and he knew very well how I still feel about him. I decided to finally stop talking to him because I never stopped loving him, and it kills me to think of him with that girl (don't know her, have nothing against her personally). To get to the point, it's been 2 months since he's been dating that girl and I still think about him every single day and night. I feel like he dragged me along only to leave me like yesterday's garbage. I did a lot for this boy, and i mean A LOT. Way too much to ever bother getting into. I feel incredibly stupid for still missing him all the time, and crying over him. I'm sick and tired of missing him. I know it's stupid, but I want him to miss me. At least as a friend because we used to be best friends but I'm willing to bet all my money that since the last time we spoke (2 months ago) he hasn't thought about me once. I feel absolutely ridiculous, but I don't know how to stop feeling like this. I've talked to friends and family but I talk bout it so much I don't want to do it anymore because I don't want to drive them away. I don't want to be the debbie downer with them all the time, but I dont know what to do anymore. I need help, please :(

KelseyRo KelseyRo
22-25, F
6 Responses Feb 15, 2010

If he treats you this way, well you can make him jealous and play dirty. Hahahahahaha. <br />
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Or. Just accept the fact that he isn't the one. :-j It means that person who will really spend the rest of his life with you is out there waiting for you. :> Just wait for him. He'll come around. <br />
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Proof? Well this guy spontaneously picked up this new girl, didn't even warn you, and probably (I think) used his work as an excuse to see this new girl. So tell me, is HE the one? ;)<br />
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If you want a confidence boost, occupy yourself. Do what makes you feel good. Like yourself. Pamper yourself. "He" should just be right around the corner. ;)

Another person here who feels like they know that experience way too well...though this person was never mine to begin with. Apparently they were just stringing me along until they found a real girlfriend prospect. It sucks. I wish I had some advice for you, but I don't know what to do either. If I figure it out I'll let you know. Good luck.

I know how you feel. I was strung by a girl who gave me hope and a glimpse of what could have been. when suddenly she said one day i think we are not suitable for each other. She broke my heart. All she could say after that was keep you faith you will find someone more suitable for you. I was so devastated. If you need someone to talk to, you are welcome to message me

fadeaway your story sounds like a carbon copy of mine! i'm hping this site helps me as well

This is similar to what I have been going through recently. I was told we needed a "break" so she can settle her family issues and focus on setting her life stright. we remained intament for a while (when ever she wanted) and she strung me along giving me hope at a new start. all i got were lies and weekends looking like a fool.<br />
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I have tried clubbing, drinking, seeing other people. and it is just a waste of time.I wake up with this feeling of hell.<br />
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the best thing i have done is talking to new people and admitting everything to them with blunt honesty. most of them get scared away but i feel better expressing my true emotions to people and crying instead of holding baack tears when im at my worst. its actually how i came to find this site yesterday searching for answers on how to make the pain stop

This is similar to what I have been going through recently. I was told we needed a "break" so she can settle her family issues and focus on setting her life stright. we remained intament for a while (when ever she wanted) and she strung me along giving me hope at a new start. all i got were lies and weekends looking like a fool.<br />
<br />
I have tried clubbing, drinking, seeing other people. and it is just a waste of time.I wake up with this feeling of hell.<br />
<br />
the best thing i have done is talking to new people and admitting everything to them with blunt honesty. most of them get scared away but i feel better expressing my true emotions to people and crying instead of holding baack tears when im at my worst. its actually how i came to find this site yesterday searching for answers on how to make the pain stop