Just A Little Experiment...I am not in the same boat as many people here, my partner and I do still have sex. Just not that often, and never at his instigation.
But wait you say, that's not fair...how can he instigate if you always jump in first. Very good question.
So I have decided to stop and see what happens, he got back from a business trip last Saturday night and I was very happy to see him. So lets just call that day zero. Its now Friday and I have been sitting on my hands all week just to see what will happen....so far nada. Is this how marriages slip into being sexless? The person who does all the initiating finally gets sick of it and gives up. So no-one tries any more and the ship just sinks?
It will be very illuminating to find out exactly how far out of synch our libidos really are.
I will keep you posted