Too Many Years

I have been married 15 years. Known him since I was 15. we do not have sex and tonight, I believe he does not love me anymore. not all his fault, but not all mine.
just not happy. at all
Neerod65 Neerod65
46-50, F
5 Responses Oct 6, 2012

I just assumed what I had was what I was supposed to have in life- three wonderful sons and a marriage that went downhill for the last 17 of 29 years. Sex? Once since my last son and he's almost 18. I tried now and then to make it better but she didn't try at all. Why'd I stay? Because I wanted to be with my kids and you learn to adapt to the circumstances. I've recently filed for divorce because I finally realized that I wasn't going to finish out my time on earth unhappy. Weigh your options.

It might have been because I did all the cooking, cleaning, dr. appts, day care and school picks ups, etc. She worked, came home and plopped down on her bed which I called the "command center." Her hobby was spending every last dime we had and more. I am so happy now, to be free of that, and knowing what's in my checking account is secure. Clearly, I was an enabler and I feel I need counseling to get past that. I was just trying to keep the peace but I should have been more assertive when things started going off the rails.

It sounds as if you need some kind of change. I would advise marital counseling but you would both have to be agreeable to it. If you do not have sex I wonder how each of you satisfies themselves. It is also possible there is some kind of medical issue that could be addressed. No matter what your happiness is out there and your job is to find whether it is with him or someone else or simply some other activity.

sounds like me.but sadly mine left me in sept and i am depressed very painful
yes i did feel lonely with him his mind was always in space this has affected me really badly... what will you do

i m ready to sex with u r u?

Probably God doesn't give people that thing 100% in this/one life which is the dream/weakness of the person. Truly feeling a bit good/happy as EP has taken a project to make connections among same mentality of people or the persons having same craving!! Lets explore our self to make our dreams/desires come true!! Well, what to say I'm an open minded fun/sex loving guy but leaving almost sexless marriage life. To me sex is an art & I'm a good artist. I'm having high sex drive and also a bit choosy on sexual matter...!! I'm also comfortable with all aged groups (women, matured women, girls) provided the partner is friendly and wild in the bed. I'm looking for a true "****-buddy" but relationship status with me have to be a friend only. Sex can be made colorful but not at the cost of privacy and secrecy. If any one is sex loving decent female she who wants to enjoy heavenly taste of secret sex as a true friend then pls don't shy/hesitate to knock me!!