Does Anyone's Spouse Dismisses Their Feelings?.Anyone experience their spouse not allowing them to express themselves freely?
My husband refuses to allow me to get angry, frustrated, or just plain upset over anything. It is like any negative feeling is not allowed or he says "affects him"and most of the time it (the source) will have absolutely nothing to do with him at all!!!
I could be in another room or over the baby monitor in some cases and he will get so angry at me for say...stubbing my toe and saying S****! and he will tell me "just calm down! just calm down!" as if I am flying off the handle about something. It sucks because when I try to explain myself calmly that it had nothing to do with him or why I was feeling a certain way he will say I am over reacting and here I go again and that i need to control myself. It is getting very frustrating and resentful that I can't fully express myself.
I told him the other day I was dealing with somethings and he didn't want to deal with them. Every time we have a discussion or some fight about whatever and i try to tell him my side or how I feel I am completely dismissed and not validated and I have told him this but he refuses to listen. now I am to the point I don't tell him how I feel or anything about my day because I feel it doesn't matter anymore and he doesn't understand.
I believe it stems from his childhood...he is not the favored son and his mom and dad are both non-emotional, passionless people. It sounds insensitive to say this but its true...is mother wasn't the nurturing type and has some control and passive aggressive issues herself and treats her husband like a dog.
feistypepper 26-30, F 4 Responses 0 Nov 30, 2012