I Am Married and Have Fallen In Love With Someone Else
I can't believe how many others have similar stories. Yet with no resolution, yet?
Firstly.
I am no longer in love with my wife of 29 years. My high school sweetheart. We have 3 children, 15-19 who seem very well adjusted although my youngest is having some issues and maybe it's because of my wife and my relationship.
I take responsibility for most of our issues and my wife has stayed with me through the tough times, financial is about 99% of the problem, but the last ten years have been a struggle, emotionally, for me. I'd much rather be at work than at home with my wife. I don't hate her but I no longer love her. We haven't had sex in over two years. And no I have not had sex with anyone else, yet. I want to leave and I most likely will but I fear devastating her. Although part of me says she will be very angry and maybe not be as devastated. Maybe she'll even feel some relief, which would be great.
Secondly.
I have hopelessly in love with another woman who was my employee. Now that she isn't I have been seeing her as much as I can. No sex, just hugging and kissing and talking. She too is married with 2 small children, one with special needs, to highschool sweetheart also. Her husband is an alcoholic who treats her not very nicely. She would have left him but for the children.
This gal is a perfect match for me. We have so much in common. We love each others company, we are in love. She was my employee for 10 years so I know her really well.
Right now we are both so distracted by each other. We think about each other constantly. It's so hard to function day to day. She says nothing will become of it because of her kids. But then she also seems so unhappy and the things she tells me about what her husbands says and does makes me even sadder. I don't know what to do. I know I could make her happy and support her. I need some words of wisdom.thanks
Firstly.
I am no longer in love with my wife of 29 years. My high school sweetheart. We have 3 children, 15-19 who seem very well adjusted although my youngest is having some issues and maybe it's because of my wife and my relationship.
I take responsibility for most of our issues and my wife has stayed with me through the tough times, financial is about 99% of the problem, but the last ten years have been a struggle, emotionally, for me. I'd much rather be at work than at home with my wife. I don't hate her but I no longer love her. We haven't had sex in over two years. And no I have not had sex with anyone else, yet. I want to leave and I most likely will but I fear devastating her. Although part of me says she will be very angry and maybe not be as devastated. Maybe she'll even feel some relief, which would be great.
Secondly.
I have hopelessly in love with another woman who was my employee. Now that she isn't I have been seeing her as much as I can. No sex, just hugging and kissing and talking. She too is married with 2 small children, one with special needs, to highschool sweetheart also. Her husband is an alcoholic who treats her not very nicely. She would have left him but for the children.
This gal is a perfect match for me. We have so much in common. We love each others company, we are in love. She was my employee for 10 years so I know her really well.
Right now we are both so distracted by each other. We think about each other constantly. It's so hard to function day to day. She says nothing will become of it because of her kids. But then she also seems so unhappy and the things she tells me about what her husbands says and does makes me even sadder. I don't know what to do. I know I could make her happy and support her. I need some words of wisdom.thanks
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