Complicated....

Well, I just turned 34 yrs.old and I am married to someone that is 28 yrs older than me....I Love him....But he's just not the person I married...I know that he loves me but he doesn't show it much anymore.....I have been with this man for a LONG time....I don't have any kids and couldn't have them if I wanted to....So I have that hardship as well....He shows me no affection at alI....I handle it pretty good...But sometimes it gets overwhelming...The one thing that's gotten worse is his controlling manner...I do like a man to be a man but not try to control my every move..I read one person's situation about them not being able to do anything right, well that's my case as well...I am very good to my spouse....I do anything and everything and then some that he asks of me....But yet he finds something to gripe about...I should have done it this way, or why didn't you do this.....Instead of just saying. THANKS Honey, I appreciate it....But no, I probably would fall over dead if that happened...lol...I don't know....Maybe that's what I get for marrying someone so much older...Oh Well...It Is What It Is...Marriage is VERY complicated, to say the least...I guess I was looking for other people to talk to that were facing the same issues as myself.....
suddenly1978 suddenly1978
31-35, F
3 Responses Jan 10, 2013

I think you will find that he doesn’t realise how patronising he is being with you...

If you had a good friend that could mention it to him to make him realise how he is treating you and how unhappy you are about it, this may help...

If you want to chat just drop me a line...

Your Yarhoo!

Thank you for your post. I read your post about you... wanted to let you know after my ex and I split I found myself with my first older woman, she was married with no kids. She was in the same boat as you. As long as he does not know, and you only love you husband... cheating is fine. I know you will disagree but we are part of the animal kingdom.

IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY DO NOT WASTE YOUR LIFE AWAY SWEETIE, I DID IT FOR 13 YRS AND WASTE 13 YRS OF MY LIFE......REMEMBER THIS.....LOVE LIKE ITS YOUR LAST DAY TOGETHER...IF YOU LOVE LIKE THAT THEN STAY WITH HIM IF ITS NOT THEN ,,,,,,,,WELL SEARCH YOUR HEART ...YOU ARE STILL YOUNG....GOOD LUCK AND MAY GOD BLESS YOU....