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Lonely In New Jersey

I am a married 52 year old in central NJ, I  have been married for 24 years and love my wife.  We have 2 teenagers.

Ten years ago my wife was diagnosed with breast cancer, she underwent a lumpectomy and had to receive chemo and radiation therapy.  Thank God she was ok! It has been 10 years snow and she is cancer-free!!

What did happen was because of the treatment she had early menopause, which is very common.  This happened about 5 years ago, since then sex has become very painful for her.  We have tried numerous solutions and have gone to see many doctors but they all say the same thing.  Without Hormone Replacemt Therapy she will continue to experience pain.  This has led us to a sexless marriage.  She does not enjoy oral and so we live celebate.

I have given up trying to come up with new ideas.

Now I am online looking for a woman who is not looking for a relationship but wants a friend with benefits and it is very difficult.

I am a really nice guy who is not looking to leave his wife. 

If anyone can give me an idea that will not cost me 50 dollars a month to join some stupid dating site I am up for ideas.
randy58usa randy58usa 51-55, M 2 Responses May 21, 2010

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I am a 56 years old married man from new jersey. I have a simaler experience. I am married for 30 years now and have 3 grown kids. My wife was dignoused with MS 5 years ago. Since then our life just stopped all i do everyday is work and come home to takecare of my wife. By the way I bleive to my hart mariaged is to death I love my wife and cannot see her sufer more than she already has God please help her help us I know what are you going through any ideas?

Try its a free online dating site...Im sorry to hear about your wife, my father is going through the battle himself...livestrong.