Unhappily Married

YES I'M MARRIED, BEEN FOR 10YRS, BUT THE MAN I MARRIED IS NOT THE SAME MAN I MARRIED, OR IS HE. WHEN WE FIRST GOT MARRIED HE WAS FUNNY, AND FUN TO BE WITH. HE DRANK ON OCCASION, OR HOLIDAY. I DIDN'T KNOW ALOT ABOUT HIM, BUT I SHORTLY FOUND OUT A LOT THAT I WAS SHOCKED AT AND DISAPPOINTED ABOUT.

HE IS VERY SECRETIVE, HE ACTS LIKE HE LOVES OUR DAUGHTERS MORE THAN HE LOVES ME. HE'S CHEATED ON ME SEVERAL TIMES, EVEN BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED HE GAVE ME A STD, AND THANK GOD IT WASEN'T SO SERIOUS IT WOULD HAVE KILLED ME. I STILL MARRIED HIM LIKE A FOOL. NOW 10YRS LATER HE'S BECOME AN OLD GRUMPY MAN. HE'S 10YRS OLDER THAN ME, AND HE'S JUST SO SETTLED IN HIS 1 JOB, NOT INTERESTED IN DOING ANYTHING ELSE BUT STAYING AT HIS LIL SECURITY JOB, AND NOT DOING ANYTHING ELSE. HE SAID HE HAD THE SAME GOALS AND PLANS AS ME, BUT NOW THAT WE ARE WHERE WE ARE AND I WANT MORE, HE DOESN'T SEEM TO WANT MORE, SO I JUST HAVE TO GO ON AND DO WHAT I NEED TO DO FOR ME, BECAUSE HE DOESN'T SEEM TO WANT THE SAME THINGS I DO.

HE LOVES TO ****, THAT'S WHAT HE DOES, BECAUSE HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO MAKE LOVE TO ME, HE DOESN'T TAKE THE TIME TO FIND OUT WHAT'S EXCITING TO ME, AND HE JUST THINKS HE CAN JUST JUMP ON ME AND **** ME, I'M TIRED OF HIM WHEN IT COMES TO SEX, SO I DON'T EVEN GIVE HIM ANY. I TOLD HIM I WANTED ANOTHER MAN, AND I DIDN'T MIND IF HE HAD ANOTHER WOMEN, BUT HE GOT UPSET IN A QUIET STRANGE WAY AND TALKED ABOUT GETTING THOSE IMPLANTS TO GROW HIS PENIS. BUT THAT'S NOT IT I'M JUST NOT IN LOVE WITH HIM ANYMORE, HE'S TOO OLD FOR ME NOW, HE'S NOT EXCITING, AND HE'S DOESN'T TAKE CARE OF HISSELF LIKE HE SHOULD...HE'S JUST BORING NOW. I'M ALWAYS THE ONE WHO HAS TO START EVERYTHING WITH HIM, WHATEVER IT IS I HAVE TO MASTER MIND IT, HE CAN'T DO ANYTHING FOR HIMSELF. 

i GUESS THIS WILL BE MY LIFE UNTIL DEATH DOES US PART, LIKE THE PREACHER SAYS, THRU THICK N THIN, RICHER OR POORER, SICKNESS OR HEALTH, BECAUSE I'M NEVER GETTING MARRIED AGAIN......
sTILL STANDING
sunshinebee sunshinebee
46-50
6 Responses Jul 17, 2010

Omg get divorced already

Marriages go through ups an downs, but if you have been with him so long and tried then nothing will change. I love my husband but he is not good to me and I tried leaving but somehow he plays with my head and I come back to him. I hope one day he will treat me right. Although I doubt that very much. Life is too short and you deserve happiness too. Men can be selfish; but life is give and take so there has to be a balance. You only get to live once, so do what makes you happy.

Where do you live, "sunshine". ToutesSaisons

Crysis, similar situation, but mine spans a period of nearly 10 years. I often wonder why life throws such curves, and how we best deal with them. Kids seem to be the glue that binds the otherwise hopeless pairings. <br />
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Good luck my brother.<br />
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And Sunshinebee, best wishes to you as well.

If I were your husband and you wanted to experience another man/men I'd be open to you having that experience. And I'm the type that would love to listen or watch, but if not that at least I'd like to hear the details after your special date(s).

I can't offer you advice one way or the other. No, that's a lie. I won't be like Ann Landers and say take him to councelling. Councelling for you would help though. My councelor, he is very good at helping me organize my thoughts and dealing with f'ed upb situations. I have several ongoing issues that seem to get worse every day. I can't wait until he gets out of the hospital. <br />
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I feel for you and hope you find ways to smile and enjoy life.