Getting Married And Having Cold Feet.

I am 45 and getting married for the third time. i am having second thoughts and am looking around and find I have no real friends tha tI feel like I can talk to. I feel extrodinarily lonely. I really need to talk about this and am sad that I am having to turn to my computer for solice but grateful for the outlet.
wildebug wildebug
41-45
2 Responses Jul 22, 2010

My goodness Lucklegs. How you do protest soooo much. Maybe the mirror needs to be turned towards you????? My current fiance is a joy. I married two alcoholics before and since that time, I have looked within myself, gotten to know myself (although I feel as if this is a lifelong process) and have lived the last ten years perfectly (maybe not perfectly) well all by myself. When I met, Sam, I was not looking for anyone to be in my life. I was perfectly resigned to the idea of living my life without a partner. Sam came into my life and we have made a life together. In october we plan to marry. I was expressing my fears about another marriage and looked around and did not have a person I felt comfortable about sharing my fears with. That is why I chose this outlet. Certainly NOT to get an ALL CAPS judgemental lecture from someone who assumes they know me or my situation. And you know what they say about those that ASSume things.... so thanks but no thatnks luckyklegs!!!!

IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU???? WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO GET MARRIED FOR THE 3rd TIME? IF IT DONT WORK OUT THE FIRST AND POSSIBLY SECOND TIME,THEN YOU HAVE TO LOOK AT YOURSELF. YOU MUST HAVE EITHER, A BAD CHOICE IN MEN OR NO CONFIDENCE TO LIVE A FULL LIFE ON YOUR OWN. IT WON'T POSSIBLY WORK OUT IF YOU FEEL LIKE THIS. WHY DONT YOU DO SOME WORK ON YOURSELF, LIKE, LEARN TO KNOW YOURSELF, MAYBE YOU MIGHT LEARN TO LIKE YOURSELF AND WON'T NEED TO KEEP LOOKING TO OTHERS TO MAKE YOUR LIFE HAPPY. IT IS OK TO BE ON YOUR OWN INCASE YOU DIDNT KNOW......