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I Am Married But Lonely

Its His Job

By: rosieposie123
Written on October 18th, 2010
being married to a soldier is so lonely. i love him with all my heart but the deployments are so long and the work itself takes so much out of him that im always up alone watching tv. or going out to a movie w/o him b.c he is to tired to go. i try to not be so alone. i keep my bestie's close. and try to get out as much as possible when he is at work but its not the same. sometimes i just need him there. and right now b.c of all the training he is doing to deploy again he is always gone. and im always alone....
By: rosieposie123
Age: 18-21
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    AloneInHawaii
    AloneInHawaii

    I can understand exactly what you mean. The critters are a big help, but still, it is really lonely, for really long periods of time... then he gets home and it is still lonely because the Navy takes so much from him in time and energy. The one thing that comforts me when things are at the worst is the idea that the pain I feel is evidence of how much I love him. I would never trade the intensity of my feelings for him, in order to have deployments be less difficult. I see other wives who don't really mind that their husband is gone... and I wonder how long after the guy gets out of the military the marriage will last.



    In my (not so humble) opinion, if being apart isn't very hard, why would you stay together? Maybe that's really cynical, but it is one of the few thoughts than helps me when I'm really down about him being gone.

    Oct 26, 2010
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    I can understand exactly what you mean. The critters are a big help, but still, it is really lonely, for really long periods of time... then he gets home and it is still lonely because the Navy takes so much from him in time and energy. The one thing that comforts me when things are at the worst is the idea that the pain I feel is evidence of how much I love him. I would never trade the intensity of my feelings for him, in order to have deployments be less difficult. I see other wives who don't really mind that their husband is gone... and I wonder how long after the guy gets out of the military the marriage will last.



    In my (not so humble) opinion, if being apart isn't very hard, why would you stay together? Maybe that's really cynical, but it is one of the few thoughts than helps me when I'm really down about him being gone.

    Oct 26, 2010
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    thebigshow91
    thebigshow91

    I can relate, I'm active duty as well...

    Oct 20, 2010
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    Lizzy2046
    Lizzy2046

    I hope things get better for you.

    Oct 18, 2010
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