Its My Fault...

I understand about being unemployed. I was unemployed from Oct 2010 until Dec 2011, and it sucked. I finally was able to find a job and lucky for me now I work 2 jobs. I know that it is very hard going from the family breadwinner to nothing. I am wondering. I read that you have put on some extra weight. And I went through that phase. But , my question is. Since your sex life is a disappointment , maybe you should allow your wife to have sex with other. This may not be a cure all for your marriage but, it mught put her inabetter mood. In the meantime fine a way to get beack in shape. People are more likely to hire someone that is in shape rather thatn someone thay might have to spend a lot of money on healthcare. These are just some unbiased observations. You do not have to listen or read anything I have written. But, just think about it. It could save your marriage.

Hang in there I've walked in those shoes myself, don't give up you two look good together

I will do all i can fir you both, sorry to read this

There are many things in life that ARE FREE, that you can persue if you choose to.

There is no excuse for being out of shape, other than you choose to be. Especially if you are unhappy with your own self - start a workout routine! You don't have to go to a gym and spend money - Jack Lelane (spelling may be wrong here) is a great example. Push-ups, sit-ups, chair dips, lunges - all possible without a gym membership and if done with vigor WILL get you into shape. Toss in some walking/joggin/running and before you know it you'll be the hunk your wife wants.

If you aren't working or actively looking for a job, VOLUNTEER - do SOMETHING! I see in your experiences you like wii - get away from the TV and do something constructive!

It doesn't cost anything to toss some rose pettals on the bed, light some candles, and offer your wife a sensual massage. Blindfold her first, and talk dirty to her while you are massaging her. Tease the hell out of her, and when she is begging for release make her wait a little longer before taking care of her needs. This always gets me arroused.



Good luck to you - and keep your head up. There is work out there, keep looking and sell yourself. Most importantly - Take care of YOU! If you don't take care of yourself and don't have confidence in yourself, why would anyone else have confidence in you? YOU are the only one that can control YOU. Manage your own destiny.

Please....been there...conquered that. Our marriage was on life support 8 years ago. You will need to man up to defeat this one. At the same time you will need to free her to explore with you. Work on improving yourself. You can't change anybody who does not want to change.



I had performance issues several years ago but the truth was, it was not my ****, it was my mind. I was bored with ******* her as the sex acts were completely predictable and routine. Sex is 99% mental for both woman and men. You need to work on yourself and change up your game if you want to stay with her. You also need to force the sex agenda to take a new direction. Be bolder, be dirtier. When your ******* her and about to ***, pull out and shoot your load on her face. She will be pissed and angry but you will feel ******* great and she will know who the man is.....and want it again despite her protests. Make her feel like a ***** when you get to the bedroom, if she is not responding to the nice guy loving husband approach. The days of making love are few and far between currently and rarely do I miss them. It has been forced into submission by a more carnal act of *******, with lots of fantasy thrown in to make her MIND and her ***** respond to your lustful acts. Do not accept the status quo!



Otherwise you can be passive and end up her ***** which for many, is actually a joy. Different strokes for different folks. Get off the fence and do something with her before someone else does.

This is a tough position to be in. It's almost a no win.

Have you and your wife tried to go out and do something exciting in public that is romantic? Kiss and mess with her in public, get the thrill going, set a romantic place in the woods by a stream. Do something that would put her in all. Grab her and kiss her passionitly out of the blue and tell her you love her and walk away. Good luck my friend!