Married 26 Years And Things Have Gotten Boring

I have been married for 26 years and my wife has changed drastically in the last 10 years. She used to be fun and enjoyed being adventurous when it came to sex. Her lately she is no longer interested and when she is it very predictable and boring. I have tried talking to her about it and even got her to go see a counselor. However, the counselor pretty much confirmed to me what I already knew.    She is not changing and refuses to think there is anything wrong. I really feel like I am stuck and feel like there needs to be changes. I do not really believe in divorce or want to get divorced but I am at a loss as to what to do.
bigonetex bigonetex
46-50, M
2 Responses May 10, 2012

I have tried everything you can think of even going to see a therapist. Sad part is the therapist told me the best thing to do is go our separate ways. So I really do not know what else I can do.

Have you really tried romancing her? Do the same things turn her on that use to? I know myself the more I have sex, the more I want it. If I have a dry spell, then I am less interested. Try getting her in her sleep, I mean would she really push you away if she awoke to you going down on her? Wake her up this way about every night. Maybe this will increase her drive. Candles, music, date her again.... If your advances don't work, have a serious heart to heart about how this is hurting you... best wishes n good luck!