3 Years, We Are Roommates.I am married, with 2 amazing kids, and a husband who is a great person. The thing is, he NEVER talks to me. When he gets home just to have some communication, I have to give him the third degree, just to find out how his day was, and even then, the answers are not anything beyond one word answers. When I tell him, that in order for our marriage to last and work, I need communication, all I ever get in return is "What do you want me to say?!" or "I do not understand what you are saying." I am not sure how I can be more clear. I say I need more communication beyond "What's for dinner" or an occasional funny story about our kids.
I never have any desire to have sex with him anymore, just seems pointless. We have no passion, no romance, nothing. If I suggest we go out for the night, I have to do ALL the planning (the location, the sitter, etc.), and he just goes along and seems to hate it the whole time. I suggest he plans it.... And we never do anything. When I talk about future goals and aspirations (we are 28), I get a grunt or a "that would be cool" but it is entirely left up to me to figure out how it may be possible. When I attempt to ask him about the future... Well you guessed it silence... I do not know what to do. I am so tired of being alone, and feeling like he only married me because it was on a list of things to do in life.