My husband isn't there for me when I get emotional or when he does something that hurts me. We have been married for a little over a year now and have had some pretty intense arguments. If, during an argument I start to cry he becomes even more upset. I think he thinks that I am trying to 'win' by crying. Also, if he does something that hurts my feelings and I try and talk to him about it, no matter how respectful, calm and rational I am with him, he gets extremely upset. Even if I am not crying (because I have learned how upset crying makes him). Sometimes he will say he is sorry but he will do it in a way that is brushing me off so that I stop bothering him. It doesn't seem genuine. Then he will just leave me by myself sad and crying. However, if someone else hurts me or upsets me he will be there to hold me and talk me down. I was finally starting to come around to the idea that it hurts but it's not the end of the world and maybe with time he will mature and learn to show me love how I need it. However, with the most recent event it seems I need his consoling if I am to heal. I recently found out that my husband has been watching ****, which I thought was not an issue in our marriage. The fact that I felt safe with him sexually and not to cheat/look at ****, was the greatest security to me in our marriage. Since to me that type of betrayal is the most hurtful. Anyway, when I confronted him he became angry. VERY ANGRY. However, after I told him I was able to prove it by calling the Internet provider he did admit to it. He told me it wasnt very often and that it wasn't a problem. But he would answer no questions about it. I became sad and went to the bedroom and crid. He came after me an was telling me that it's not a big deal and I shouldn't be so upset. Which of course hurt even worse. I tried to explain it to him why it hurt so bad but he stormed out of the room. And then he didn't talk to me for a whole day(a whole day in which i spent crying). I sent him a email explaining to him I still loved him and attached an article explaining how **** hurts a spouse so he could try and see why I was hurting. But he never responded. Finally, the next day, I asked him if he would talk to me. He said no so I asked if he would the next day and he agreed. Another day went by that he just ignored me and I spent crying. Finally, he said to me 'Ok. Let's talk' and then waited for me to talk. I wanted him to come to me remorsefully. Maybe not for his actions of doing the watching but at least out of what it's doing to me! I approached the subject telling him how hurtful it was while using 'I sentences'. He said he was sorry and he won't do it anymore but, that was it. I don't know if it's me asking too much but I wanted him to just hold me and tell me how much he loved me and only me and that he didn't realize it would effect me this way... Etc etc etc. So, when I couldn't stop crying he again left me alone. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I am expecting too much from him or what but I feel so alone now that I feel emotionally separated from his as well as sexually. What do I do? I feel like I'm going crazy with all my thoughts and despair. It seems as if he is making me crying the issue so that he doesn't have to talk about what the real issue is. The real issue is obviously him watching **** and how hurtful that is to me on so many different levels.