The Lonely Wives Club BandI am the young age of twenty five, been married for barely a year and already feel the sting of loneliness from being deprived of passion. (Not to gloat or seem cocky in anyway but the next part is an important part of why I feel so neglected...) I'm a fairly attractive woman and even all of my husband's friends say (till this day) they couldn't believe he got me to marry him, I consider myself a good wife, I'm well liked among our peers and I have a lot to offer other than looks... yet my husband has spent most of his days on his xbox when he's not working. I've talked it over with him on several occasions, at first it was just me complaining slightly but I still gave into his "hobby", I bought him expensive turtle beach headphones, gone with him to midnight releases of pre-bought games and so on. But now, we've gone on so long this way that I no longer plead or beg, instead I feel so distant from him.
I honestly think I'm falling out of love with him. We haven't had sex in three months because well, I just don't want to. I'm not purposely trying to hold back to punish him, I just really lost all my drive. I used to be a very sexual person and now I have no urge. I don't even like it when he touches my hand or anything.
He wakes up just in time to go to work (he works four days a week, pretty long hours) and when he gets home he plays video games. Then on his days off, he plays video games until four-five in the morning. He constantly forgets things that I ask him to do (which is barely anything). He doesn't plan anything romantic for me, take me out on dates or just over all TRY and be romantic or make me feel special.
I'm too young to feel this way and no matter how much I point it out to him or threaten to leave it only pushes him away more. I honestly don't think he cares. He says he does but truthfully it just frustrates him. He's a good guy, he's kind, he doesn't drink or do drugs, he's not a partier nor does he cheat... sure, those are all wonderful things but when I feel like a roommate (except for when he wants sex) it really makes me cold and bitter.
I don't know what to do.
MRSlonelyheartsclub 22-25, F 28 Responses 7 Nov 10, 2012