Get Your Priorities Straight

I believe that when you are married and have a family that your overall priorities should be:

1) Yourself
2) Your spouse
3) Your children

Selfish, right?

Well, a high priority doesn't necessarily mean where you spend most of your time. Most people probably think your children are your highest priority, and I believe they are high, but if you don't focus on yourself first and then your marriage, then you aren't giving your best to your kids.

If you don't take care of yourself, you won't have the energy or the happiness to reflect back to your kids. You also may not be the best role model to them. Also, if you are not taking care of yourself, does your spouse then bear extra burdens?

Secondly, to be the best for your kids, your marriage needs to be solid. If your marriage is a happy one, then the kids see that and can grow up in a healthy environment.

So if you take care of yourself and your marriage, it will be easier to take care of your children properly.

Insearchofmore Insearchofmore
51-55, M
4 Responses Dec 15, 2012

In the early years of the marriage,i would swap one and two. I this k your first priority would be to your spouse. Once the kids come along, I would put them as the number one priority, followed by your spouse, with the self taking a third.

Yes very true but God your faith has to be first

I agree, but at what point in a failing marriage do you move the kids up to the number 2 spot? Does thier happiness mean you have to shut down emotionally and change the way you look at your marriage? More like a buisness contract....

Children are my first priority. I will do whatever it takes to make sure that they grow up in a healthy environment.

Taking care of me first means divorcing my wife and find a new love :)