Where Are We?

I am a 32 year old women. Married to who I thought was the love of me life, but I don't know if I was ever the love of his...
I signed up to this project primarily to vent about my feeling in my marriage and still remain anonymous but also to here of how others such as myself deal with the things I deal with in terms of marriage.
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2 Responses Jan 8, 2013

there are so many things i could say as to where i am. at home for starters. bored out of my mind. my other half is at work. kids are doing what kids do. i also signed up to vent and find a place where others feel the way i do. i know everyone has different feelings but this is where i am.

One thing I have learned in marriage is when you love yourself and have a good time with or without your spouse, escpecially when things are the way they are in our relationship, it tends to open their eyes a little.

I have been married for 5 years to my current husband. My first husbby passed away. This one seems to act as he is single alot and just keep to himself not even realizing that "I am over starving for attention". However one thing I learned since my first hubby passed is to enjoy life to the fullest. Because life is short and if you are not enjoying it, it is a waste of good life. So even though things are not how you hoped them to be. Enjoy to the best of your ability. One thing for sure is your hasband will or should notice that there is a shift in you and your happiness and will or should want to be a part of it.

Prayer also works.

I like your advice!
I think I have been living in his shadow for so long. And i try really hard to cater to his emotional needs but the moment he feels neglected he has a habit of trying to get it from other women... It is so hard to live for me though when I have three small children at home. But I am determined to try and make it happen this year!