I Did Not Marry My Best Friend - And I Regret ItI married the man who asked me. He isn't much of a talker, and he has been set in his ways from Day 1. I'm not happy and I don't do my part in speaking up and asking. Partly because I was a "nagging wife" in my first marriage. I vowed to myself I would never be that type of person in future relationships. I've had better chemistry in previous relationships and friendships. But for some reason, he asked, and I said yes. I even waited 6 months to answer his proposal because we both knew we were not too sure about marriage. After premarital counseling I made the decision and we went through with the nuptials.
Now 2 years later, everything has gone downhill: he opted to take a new job (against my advice) which he lost a month later, our credit card debt built to the point where I had to go on a debt management plan, we found out we are infertile. Are these signs that I should have taken into account before we said "I Do"?
I miss that chemistry, not fearing that what I say is going to offend my mate. I miss having someone to laugh with. I do a lot for my husband. I am not trying to brag, but I cook every day, even fix his plate, I clean the house, I do the house repairs... and in the bedroom... but it is just not reciprocated. Not in gifts or gestures. Verbally, the most he will say is "you're so beautiful" or some type of general compliment like that. But I don't feel love in any way from this man.
I do love this man. But I need a companion in him.
Just1Lady 31-35, F 4 Responses 1 Jan 20, 2013