I Am Married But Lonely
I am very curious if anyone else has had similar experiences as I have, so please let me know if you have.
I suppose to begin with I will start at the beginning of my relationship with my wife. I wasn't looking for love or a relationship when we met because I had just gotten out of a bad relationship with the mother of my first child. When my wife and started dating I made it clear as to my intentions toward us and the possibility of a relationship. I was just not ready to jump into another relationship where someone had control over my life, I simply wanted to focus on my son and give him the best life possible. We would go out on a date here and there but nothing serious.
During this time I got into an accident at work that had me laid up and drugged up from the pain for 6 months. This was a time where she began staying over and helping me out with my son. Although it annoyed me to have her near by all the time my son had really taken to her and began calling her Mommy. This single act has lead to 8 years of a relationship that never should have existed.
Over the next few years we had 2 children and finally got married in 2011. My heart has never belonged to her but she has always been in love with me. At first I just hoped that in time I would learn to love her but it never happened. We rarely had sex in the beginning of our relationship and now I would say it has been at least 6 months since the last time either of us even tried. I can't even remember the last time we kissed or hugged or showed any affection toward one another. Frankly, I just stopped even trying because I just don't care anymore. Now here is the real kicker, in no other relationship have I ever been this way. I was always very romantic and caring and couldn't get enough of the other person.
To me the problem is simple but the solution is unclear. The problem is that I simply do not love my wife but I do think of her as my best friend. So the question is do I stay in a relationship with an 8 year track record of failure making false promises to each other to get through another year or do I walk away and break her heart in hopes of a life worth living?
Now I do appreciate others views but please don't say things like "just hang in there it gets better" or "you both just need to talk and work it out." I have tried both with no results and I am sure others have been there before as well.
Thank you for your time.
I suppose to begin with I will start at the beginning of my relationship with my wife. I wasn't looking for love or a relationship when we met because I had just gotten out of a bad relationship with the mother of my first child. When my wife and started dating I made it clear as to my intentions toward us and the possibility of a relationship. I was just not ready to jump into another relationship where someone had control over my life, I simply wanted to focus on my son and give him the best life possible. We would go out on a date here and there but nothing serious.
During this time I got into an accident at work that had me laid up and drugged up from the pain for 6 months. This was a time where she began staying over and helping me out with my son. Although it annoyed me to have her near by all the time my son had really taken to her and began calling her Mommy. This single act has lead to 8 years of a relationship that never should have existed.
Over the next few years we had 2 children and finally got married in 2011. My heart has never belonged to her but she has always been in love with me. At first I just hoped that in time I would learn to love her but it never happened. We rarely had sex in the beginning of our relationship and now I would say it has been at least 6 months since the last time either of us even tried. I can't even remember the last time we kissed or hugged or showed any affection toward one another. Frankly, I just stopped even trying because I just don't care anymore. Now here is the real kicker, in no other relationship have I ever been this way. I was always very romantic and caring and couldn't get enough of the other person.
To me the problem is simple but the solution is unclear. The problem is that I simply do not love my wife but I do think of her as my best friend. So the question is do I stay in a relationship with an 8 year track record of failure making false promises to each other to get through another year or do I walk away and break her heart in hopes of a life worth living?
Now I do appreciate others views but please don't say things like "just hang in there it gets better" or "you both just need to talk and work it out." I have tried both with no results and I am sure others have been there before as well.
Thank you for your time.
By:
didntwantthis
Age:
26-30
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