I Am Married But Lonely
I have been married to my wife for 32 yrs. 10 yrs ago she suffered a stroke. I was her caregiver for 8 years, keeping her at home until I burned out. She is now in an Assisted Living Facility. She has friends, good care and more independence than she did at home. We sold all our belongings and I have now rented my home to help pay for her care. I am living in a mobile home. We get by financially after all this.
I have asked a woman who I have known for 45 yrs to move in with me. I loved her way back then and still have feelings today also. My problem is I dont kow how to tell my wife. I promised my wife I would always see that she is taken care of as we never had children and i intend to keep that promise. I wont divorce her.
My new companion is aware of this situation and is ok with it.However, I* cant bring myself to tell my wife about her and that I need to move on in MY life for the years I have left. I can only hope if I do tell her she will understand. I would encourage her to do the same if the situation was reversed.
As I said i will be there to see she is cared for as long as I am alive and capable, but the guilt of this situation weighs heavy on my mind.
I would appreciate any input, comments or opinions on my situation and what I should do.
I have asked a woman who I have known for 45 yrs to move in with me. I loved her way back then and still have feelings today also. My problem is I dont kow how to tell my wife. I promised my wife I would always see that she is taken care of as we never had children and i intend to keep that promise. I wont divorce her.
My new companion is aware of this situation and is ok with it.However, I* cant bring myself to tell my wife about her and that I need to move on in MY life for the years I have left. I can only hope if I do tell her she will understand. I would encourage her to do the same if the situation was reversed.
As I said i will be there to see she is cared for as long as I am alive and capable, but the guilt of this situation weighs heavy on my mind.
I would appreciate any input, comments or opinions on my situation and what I should do.
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