Ever After

Me and my husband are on 2 differant schedules.  I work graveyard shift and he works a regular 9-6.  We do this to avoid daycare for our 2 year old and we save almost $800 a month.  Well we have been doing this for 1 1/2 years and now I feel lonely because I barley see my husband.  We see each other in passing I get home @ 8am andhe leave at 830am.  I only get 2 hours of sleep when our son takes a nap, so when my huband gets home I go to sleep before I have to be at work @11pm.  Its hard on us.  I'm hoping someone out there can help me or give advice on how to get my marriage back.

Seven777 Seven777
22-25, F
3 Responses Sep 24, 2008

I can only make a few suggestions...plan a date. Get a sitter for a night. Call in sick once, financially this isn't easy but once is not going to break the bank. It doesn't have to be for anything more than just to spend time alone together. Whether it's sharing, talking, massaging, or actually sleeping next to each other, it is much needed in your situation. Also as silly as it sounds leave a note book in the bathroom. You write him a note when you have time & he can write you back. Like when you were in jr.high (he said, she said) Keep that notebook strictly for whatever quick things you don't get the opportunity to share during the day when he is gone or vice versa. It gets to be fun knowing you'll have a note waiting for your response each day. Also how about joining a group of mommies where they take turns watching the kids so each couple can enjoy some quiet time too......in any case, Be strong in your faith, be strong in your love & best of luck!!!

Both I love to be with my son, and the othe reason is money. Daycare is almost $200 a week thats half of our rent for a month. We are sticking through it and I know as long as we keep our lines of commication.

Yes, it's hard, but it's only temporary. Are you doing it primarily to save money or to be with your child? If you're doing it for the money, you might think about whether it's really worth it. If you're doing it for your son, God bless you.