Lonely and Distant

I've been married and faithful to my husband for nearly 20 years. For the past two or three years I've been feeling like I'm missing something. Sex, for sure, but that's not 100% of it. There's no connection anymore. Recently a very young man (he's 19) has been texting me. Although I don't ever really see him, he's been making me feel attractive, and saying very nice things to me. It's making me realize what I'm missing...I think it's passion and feeling loved and appreciated.

marriedandlonely marriedandlonely
46-50, F
5 Responses Feb 22, 2009

I kinda envy you that you have someone chasing you. Im stuck ia sexless affectionless marriage. We are going through a weird rut. We aregreat friends and parents. We love each other but we stopped dating each other. I miss our old sex life it was so much fun. Now its two minutes.

He is paying attention to you which your husband is now taking you for granted. Very explainable!

This sounds more like you're just bored and nothing exciting is happening. I wonder if he's feeling the same way too. Maybe he just needs a nudge to be the one to make it feel exciting again.

I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL. BUT I HAVE BEN MARRIED FOR 28 YRS. SHE WORKS NIGHTS-- I WORK DAYS. SHE SLEEPS ON THE COUCH IN THE LIVINGRROOM. I SLEEP ON A KING SIZE BED IN OUR BEDROOM. WHEN I COME FROM WORK I DO DISHES, PUT THE LAUNDRY ON, AND COOK DINNER FOR HER BEFORE SHE GOES TO WORK.<br />
TRY WORKING IT OUT BEFORE YOU JUST GIVE UP.

Very tempted to persue things further. Yes, very exhilerating thoughts. But I'm fighting that temptation right now. I think if he were to move on me I probably wouldn't fight.