WEDDING Ring--2nd One Still Married

I REALLY DID NOT WANT TO DO THIS BUT THIS SITE WILL BUG ME UNTIL I DO.

MY WIFE LOST OUR WEDDING RING YEARS AGO. WHAT SHE DIDN'T KOW AT THAT TIME WAS I WAS GETTING A BONUS EACH MONTH. I SAVED ENOUGH MONEY TO BUY HER ALMOST THE SAME RING---ONLY A LOT BIGGER. IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL RING. THIS RING WAS 3 TIMES BIGGER AND COST MORE. I BOUGHT IT--- COOKED HER   FAVORITE MEAL-- HAD A CANDLE-LIGHT DINNER AND THEN GAVE HER THE RING.

SHE TOLD ME THAT SHE LIKED THE RING BUT I WOULD HAVE TO RETURN IT TOMMOROW. SHE SAID WE NEEDED THE MONY FOR OTHER THINGS. NOW AT THIS POINT IN OUR LIVES--WE WERE NOT HURTING. WE MADE GOOD MONEY.

I TOOK THE RING BACK AND THE SAME GIRL THAT I BOUGHT IT FROM WAS THE ONE THAT I WAS GOING TO HAVE RETURN IT TO. WHEN YOU RETURN SOMETHING THEY ASK--WHAT WAS THE REASON?

MY WIFE DID NOT WANT IT.....

vetro vetro
51-55, M
1 Response Feb 23, 2009

I'm sorry.
I don't know her, but I have a friend. Explaining her mentality might help...? She's very practical. If her husband did this, I can imagine her saying something similar. She would prefer to go on a vacation or purchase something she really wants that is practical or useful.. or something weird she is interested in doing. She's just not that into jewelry.

To me, it wouldn't matter what my husband gave me... I would tell him it was beautiful and appreciated. I would lavish attention on him for thinking of me because I've been taught that it is the thought that counts!

How hurtful to have put so much thought and anticipation of how the new wedding ring would be received and have it end up like this. My sincere regrets for your disappointment.<br />
I've found that after 40 years, my husband doesn't think of it as hurtful to act in these ways, but appropriate. He is a hot and cold running man ... and I am over-reactive, over-sensitive, and sometimes he tells me I am over-bearing.<br />
I don't know your story and if it involves intimacy loss, sexual loss, or just a loss of love. Every story is the same here, yet so different. <br />
I don't know my husband after all these years and have just recently come to terms with this. I am contemplating a divorce to have some tenderness and intimacy in my life. <br />
Your wife is forunate that you replaced the lost ring.<br />
I lost my engagement ring about 20 years ago and have hinted and outright asked for another one, to no avail .. he doesn't believe in jewlery he's always told me.<br />
Truth be told ... it means more to me than him, and that ring means more to you, then to her.<br />
Us sentimental types always are left holding the return bag.<br />
Blessings tonight