Like Brother and Sister
I'm 59 yrs old and been married for 30 yrs this august. We had a great sex life before we were married and for the first years of our marriage. It was after our second child when my wife decided she had had enough of sex. Giving birth was so painful that it scarred her sex life. Mentally she equated sex with the pain of child birth. She was quite good for a few years when she would lay there and let me 'get on with it' as she used to put it. After a while it was like making love to a piece of meat. There was no emotion there. In the end I decided that I would wait for her to want it. The only thing she wants is to cuddle. that's fine except if I get aroused, which is only natural, She gets upset and has even called me a pervert. I can't live without that intimacy of making love. Not sex but making love where the intimacy is mutual.
I have recently retired and thought that I would try to see if there were any others, particularly women, who were in the same boat and perhaps I could find a lover/soulmate. There are lots of sites on the internet for married dating but they seem to either be for singles or sex mad women. I did find 'Illicit encounters ' which does have women like us but it costs £120 a month. Can you recommend any others?
In some ways I wish we were at each other all the time then we could get a divorce. Unfortunately we do love each other and care for each other very much but it really is now like brother and sister.
This lack of intimacy is driving me crazy. I think about it all the time and spend far too much time searching for a lover on the internet. I know people say we should go to counselling. The joke is she is one!
can't think of anything else to say now so I'll post this and wait for you comments. Thanks for taking the time to read this.