Very Lonley

ive been married 13yrs i feel like im living with a room mate instead of a husband.i dont think he finds me sexually aractive anymore or maybey he is having a afair or both.we hardly ever have sex or spend anytime together im so lonley i dont know what to do.

pnicole pnicole
41-45, F
4 Responses Feb 28, 2010

I think happiness,joy, and love, come from within, not outside of you. It sounds like you need self fulfillment! I dont believe that human beings are the answer to selffulfillment. People die, things pass out of our lives, etc. once you have self fulfillment, nothing can take that from you. <br />
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I can enjoy being with other people however they dont fulfill me. self fulfillment comes from within. Its my spirituality and coming to know who i am that makes me happy; brings me joy; as a result i have peace of mind and contentment. <br />
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Its what i believe about me, what i like and love about me,not what other people think of me, People can think what they want to about me, and they do all the time,however, thats simple their opinion, there opinion is outside of me, thus it has no effect on me, since i know who i am, and i like myself!<br />
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I live my life based on moral values and principles, thus I have a moral character, and thats how im presented to others, however, thats who choose to be, and im happy with me! <br />
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Learn to love and like yourself! <br />
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Dont base that on what other people think about you. Love you for who you are. If you need to make some changes to be a better you , then do it. But, do it for you, and then the you that you are will affect others based on who you are. <br />
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Your not in this world to live up to other peoples expectations, if they cant except you for who you are, and edify you in the ways that you need to be edified, then that person is simply who they are and where they are in their own development, that doesnt make them better nor less a person than you are, it just makes them who they are.<br />
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Sounds like you base feeling good about yourself on other peoples opinion of you. Learn to like and love yourself. If i can help in anyway let me know!

I am sorry that you are feeling so lonely, I know it's not any fun feeling that way. But remember, even if he does not think you are attractive, someone else will find you very attractive. Just because someone loses interest, that does not mean you are not interesting. Good luck to you.

I have some thoughts I'd like to share with you on this, but I would rather do them privately. message me if you'd like to talk about it.

I am sorry for your situation...it is a shame to spend a life without the pleasure of love. My heart goes out to you on this lonely day. dc