One Year

The 21st will be my one year anniversary, I have been with my husband since I was 15 minus 4 years when we were broken up. In those 4 years he lived with another woman and I got married to a selfish jerk. 2 years ago we got back together and last year we got married. These days it seems like we are fighting more and more. He works long hours and I stay home with our kids. We have four. 2 are in school and 2 stay home with me all day. My husband seems to think that because I don't work outside the home that I should be able to do everything. He also expects me to do it all with a smile. I love my kids. I love taking care of my kids. I just wish he could be more understanding about how hard it is. If I dare to complain about something he says that I am no longer happy with my life and don't want to do anything for them. Sometimes he goes so far as to tell me to go back to my mom's and let her take care of me. I don't know if he doesn't understand how much it hurts or if he just doesn't care. We don't spend much time together. Usually, I am so exhausted at night that I go to bed around 10, after I get all my kids to sleep, and he stays up playing video games. Sometimes I feel like I am doing everything alone. I feel like everything that goes wrong is my fault because I have to take care of everything. I have no help. No support. It is so frustrating.

purplehaze2202 purplehaze2202
26-30, F
5 Responses Mar 11, 2010

it sounds like your husband is a big jerk and it sounds like he is throughing a good thing away if you need to chat my windows live address is kimballwilliams@yahoo.com or my e-mail is kiimballwilliams@yahoo.com so don't hesitate to drop a line look foward to hearing from you sexy baby

it sounds like your husband is a big jerk and it sounds like he is throughing a good thing away if you need to chat my windows live address is kimballwilliams@yahoo.com or my e-mail is kiimballwilliams@yahoo.com so don't hesitate to drop a line look foward to hearing from you sexy baby

unless the OLD issues were resolved prior to your marriage, then the marriage was set up for failure. The red flags were there before you got married and they continued to be there when you got married. I don't mean to sound so insensitive, but you've sold yourself short. You think you love this person...it's not love, it's dependency. Fight for yourself and your kids. Put more faith in yourself.

You stay up as late as 10? That's past my bed time. I hate to tell you this sweet heart, but a man with 4 kids staying up and playing video games late at night isn't a man to me. If you think your first husband was a selfish jerk then I can't imagine what he was like compared to your present husband.<br />
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I'm sorry to be so blunt but that's the way I see it from what you have posted.

I agree with you honey. Men do not understand what it is to be a mom and be home all day and do it all. There's no way you can always do it with a smile. shew i have three ages 16, 10, and almost 8 and I am a single mom now. I was married 13 yrs and seems like i did it most. and i worked full time. my ex did too but geez it was me who carried things on. No wonder you are tired and ya fight. you need a night out maybe your mom or someone can sit for the kids and you two just go out and have fun. that would be nice