Intimacy = In 2 Me SeeLittle bit about me. We got married in 2007 but been together since 2001. We have two kids together, and she has two more kids from other men that I have raised as my own. I work full time, in college working on counseling degree, I run an outreach that works with young adults and youth in gangs and/or on drugs, and I also counsel on the side.
I know I am not the perfect husband, but I am giving it all that I can. When my wife cheated on me with a friend/ someone I helped and brought into my home when he didn't have one, I could have left her. I stayed and worked on all the things she said I did wrong, I changed in the areas she said drove her to have an affair.
I now am the one that feels lonely; I am the one craving communication and intimacy. It is funny how I spend so much of my day listening to her, the kids, the people from my outreach and I do not have anyone I can talk to. I have tried talking with my wife, but she is the type to do the talking and when I speak she is thinking about the next thing to say. She hears me but doesn't listen to a word I say.
For a while, I was ok with satisfying the hunger for intimacy with sex. Like the sneakers ad "satisfy your hunger with a sneaker" but it is not enough anymore, I want more. I want, crave intimacy. The openness, the communication, the bonding, flirting, sharing of emotions and thoughts. Without intimacy all we have is just sex, and that is once in a blue moon.
I am looking for other people that feel the way I feel, I want to meet other people that I can talk with. Do I want to much? in todays culture should a man only want sex and be ok with just sex? "I love sex but I want more"
boss21519 31-35, M 5 Responses 4 Jul 11, 2012