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I Am Married, Lonely And Crave Intimacy

Rescue Me!

By: saphirah
Written on January 30th, 2013
I can't live without affection and attention for one more minute! A physical affair is out of the question, but maybe having an emotional connection again can fill this emptiness I feel. It's like a crushing weight that I can't push off. I have been with my husband for nearly 20 years and although we are pleasant to one another, the passion is clearly gone and I am beyond even wanting to rekindle it. I am looking for an intelligent, funny, educated, 40-something man, who is in a similar situation, to be friends and maybe more eventually. Cyber chat only.
By: saphirah
Age: 41-45 , Female
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17 responses
  • liverpoolnut
    liverpoolnut

    Lets chat

    May 8
    1 like
  • WickedInvisible
    WickedInvisible

    I hear you.. I keep trying to rekindle ours though but he is either too dense or just not interested in me anymore. Like you, a physical affair is out of the question... now what?

    May 8
    1 like
  • shafiq101
    shafiq101

    Yes I would love 2 chat tho

    Apr 10
    1 like
  • highwayman2014
    highwayman2014

    Finally! Somebody that feels the same way in their relationship! I've been married for 24 years. The passion left about five years ago. I tell her I love her. She responds with "Okay." We're in a partnership that sounds very much like yours. I can't stand it anymore either!

    Mar 30
    1 like
  • damagedgoods42
    damagedgoods42

    oh my god my story only i am male in the relationship
    I won't and don't want a physical affair
    have chatted online and played cyberly
    be careful as you can fall for someone and it can hurt but lay down groundrules and it is fun

    Mar 30
    1 like
  • mc51
    mc51

    I also feel the intense ache inside for affection. I try not to let my anxiety and anger show. We are not married and sometimes i want to leave because I feel that he is not right for me. But are all men like him? Will I just get this again and again? I guess i should just stay alone

    Feb 5
    1 like
  • Slimbidude
    Slimbidude

    Hi Saphirah
    I tried to reply to your questions that you emailed me..but for some reason it doesn't look like my responses went anywhere. Did you receive anything? Have a nice day!
    M

    Feb 4
    1 like
    • saphirah
      saphirah

      nope. nothing in my inbox? weird.

      Feb 4
      1 like
    • Slimbidude
      Slimbidude

      It is probably some kind of security setting. You might want to check your account settings to see if you are blocking most things.

      Feb 4
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    • saphirah
      saphirah

      I think that was it. try again?

      Feb 5
      1 like
  • Slimbidude
    Slimbidude

    As a guy in a long relationship, it is nice to know that women can feel the same way. I am bi..and the physical side is just the icing on the cake of an emotional connection. I agree with you that an emotional connection is really the first step. I have found such a relationship and it is nice at a middle age. If I can be any help, chat, please let me know!!! Have a nice day!!

    Feb 3
    1 like
  • dondon1515
    dondon1515

    well reach out to any of us anytime, dont be shy. Well i dont know about others but i will try my best. Lets start with hug!

    Jan 31
    2 likes
    • saphirah
      saphirah

      How did I not see my replies! Thank you for responding and for the hug. Hugs back. It feels good to just say this out loud. I have no friends to talk to about this as they are all mutual friends with him. I have been feeling more and more trapped and unhappy. Would you like to tell me more about yourself?

      Feb 2
      1 like
    • dondon1515
      dondon1515

      What do you want to know? Send me msg.

      Feb 2
      1 like
  • experienceman11
    experienceman11

    There are a lot of us out here. Married, and in love but, just not getting what we need physically and sexually. I too could not have an affair physically with someone but, I do enjoy texting and chatting as a way to fill the void for now. She knows I am on here, and has no interest in EP (lame or what?). I am a highly sexual person and have many desires, and fantasies that I would love to act on.

    Jan 31
    1 like
    • saphirah
      saphirah

      Thank you for responding. My husband is not jealous at all, not that I have ever tried to make him jealous. I sometimes wonder if I should just ask to have an open relationship.

      Feb 2
      1 like
    • experienceman11
      experienceman11

      I'm thinking how to, or if I need to ask my wife the same thing! Good luck!

      Feb 2
      1 like