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I Am Married to a Much Older Man

A Few Challenges Now..

By: robono
Written on August 17th, 2011
By: robono
Age: 46-50
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  • cricket123

    My husband is 17 yrs older ---- I am 35 and he is 53---- been married for 11 years now with 3 small children. I too have had these thoughts, constantly lately. And yes, the age gap seems to get wider and wider as the years pass----- I have been very depressed about this lately. Yes, so many unanticipated challenges. To make matters worse, he has chronic Lyme disease which has accelerated the aging process----- it just isn't fair and I am so worried and sick at the thought of him aging any more. Even though we have a wonderful, healthy marriage, I sometimes wonder if it was all a big mistake. It is heartbreaking to watch his health deteriorate as he has seemed to age so rapidly (due to the Lyme) over the past 3 or 4 years. It just really, really sucks. I am still so young and FEEL so young when standing next to him---- but at the same time, I feel so DEAD and like he is dragging me down. His failing health is a constant black cloud hovering and almost a mockery of my life-choices.

    Dec 3, 2011
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  • blushingandblue

    When I was dating my husband, I would have these huge fits of tears thinking of us getting older and him in particular being older than me. I still am very sad by the thought. We recently had one friend whose husband passed away at 83 and she was 58 and she said that it was sad but she would never go back to change her mind.

    Sep 30, 2011
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  • Doyoufeelalonetoo

    I have to try to remind myself of the same thing you realized. When ever that thought comes up, I tend to brush it off as if it will never happen. I thought of long term care insurance and also checked into it but he insist that he won't need it. Part of me would like to believe that but the other part of me is doing reality check.... Insurance is to protect you when you need it ... you can buy it after things happen...

    Sep 9, 2011
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