I'm Sick Of This Cycle Of Abuse And Playing VictimThis is the way he had me in his trap for 5 long years. If I showed him the slightest acceptance he would begin his emotional abuse, trying to decide things for me, interfering in my actions and decisions, faking the protector, belittling me for not being able to do every task with efficiency. He would act like the hen pecked husband, bearing this huge burden called me. This is part of his need to show everyone his sacrificing nature. When situation reaches the limit, and one of us explodes, he immediately feels afraid and neglected, starts talking nervously and trying to win back my attention. His behaviour with everyone is of a warm loving man who only knows to love, even his enemies. Only I can see his lack of empathy. He knows I am living through hell for these 5 years, but all he wants is his way. All he cares is for the glorification of his ego.
Now I am in a much better situation, I can see through his mask. I know what has made him a narcissist too, it is his childhood devoid of any intimacy and warmth from his parents. But my dilemma is - is it true love to leave a narcissist...i still love him, and i know how to live so that he does me no harm. But will he be able to hurt my child, will he have a negative influence on her? These are my fears