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I Am Married to a Passive Aggressive

PA World'S Greatest Salesmen

By: SpirituallyLed9
Written on February 6th, 2013
After beng groomed to spend my life being tortured by a PA husband. I realize they are the world's greatest salesmen. They love to romance, dazzle, amaze, and "please".. Oh but wait into they get you trapped, dependent, vulnerable in their web of smoke & mirrors. That is when the true animal comes out to play. You soon discover everything negative is YOUR fault. You're the villain. They shouldn't call it PA. It is more like split personality disorder. These people do not know if they love or hate you. Do they need you or not. In reality a PA need a whipping post. Normally it is their spouse. Oh to the world they are the BEST. Behind those sparkly eyes and kind gestures is a selfish, cruel bruiting beast. That LOVE alone CAN NOT tame.
By: SpirituallyLed9
Age: 31-35 , Female
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  • unhappysuzyq
    unhappysuzyq

    Sounds exactly what I live with. Every book I've read (and there have been many) says that there's little hope of them changing. That is why my heart is broken for the three decades I've invested with him :( Thank you for sharing this, it makes me feel less alone, and definitely not crazy!

    May 11
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  • GibbySan
    GibbySan

    Sounds more like a narcissist or other personality disorder - have you researched any of that?

    Feb 23
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  • bbbotom
    bbbotom

    i sometimes wonder if i am not a PA. but i guess i don't check all the boxes. Sometimes after years of marriage life just gets in the way. Its all about the money and the responsibility now, and the reason you got married is foggy to say the least. It becomes a love/hate relationship.
    Selfish I am at times, show lack of concience, mean spirited. but in my case i am truly not a happy person(maybe that split persona thing)..I am a good salesman , because people don't see it , all smily and light on the outside, actually I am probably downright miserable..lol ( alcohol can sometimes be the true liberator).
    in a nutshell "it is not your fault".. Before we point a finger we must always remember that there are 3 fingers pointing back. In my case , at the end of the day my investment into the relationship means I have too much to loose to get out of it.....and do I want to....
    A friend of mine told me once that before I blame someone look at myself first.
    You are not trapped , but are u like me......but..no matter what NEVER believe it is your FAULT

    Feb 6
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