Married To A Taker Not A Giver.
i have been with this people for twenty years, two children.She is totally self centered to the point that her needs and wants come before everyones in the family.She,s been to rehab. several times. And every time, I hope that went she's clear and sober, she'll change, but all sign say no way.She does none of the house work , no cooking just for herself, cause she doesn't want what I've cooked for the kids. All she does is watch tv and sleep all day.Or she's bored so goes to visit friends at 1 pm and might return back to the house around 8 pm. She will then check in with our 13 yr old to ask how his day went.
We sleep in separate room, so i dont wake her when i get up at 6;30 to get our son breakfast and off to school. my question is, Do self centered person realize the negative effect they have on other members of the family or are they so self centered their no feeling for others ? I have tried counseling, but was of little help.
Sometimes, I think the best thing to di is just move on. I stay for te family, butat this point the disfunction of the family is so poor, it might be best to move on now. Because my son realizes his mother state, and says things like just leave it, or forget it, Dad. went she's eat or drink the last of his favorite food or left a mess for him or myself to clear up. Any advice r your thoughts are welcome!