Their Wife, Indeed!
I have been married to a twin for 35 years. For more than 16 of those years, we have also housed his identical twin in our home. There are many times I think I'll go crazy, and only a few times that I am grateful that "the other twin" is there. Mostly I see that his presence gives my husband an excuse not to be in a close relationship with me... like he can be a brother, or a husband, but not both at the same time. They have worked in the same company for almost all the years we have been married, driving together, eating lunch together.... always TOGETHER! But he never has time to be with me.
We all traveled for years singing together, and we were sometimes announced as "John and Dave (not their real names) and 'their wife'." I usually laughed, but most often felt humiliated, as I have never been wife to them both. How I have "stuck it out" for 35 years, I don't know... I'd like to talk to others who feel this kind of struggle.