Younger Man Doubts

MY STORY IS I HAVE BEEN WITH A MAN WHO IS 18 YEARS YOUNGER..HE TREATS ME VERY WELL AND CARES FOR
ME. BUT MY DOUBT IS THAT HE IS FROM ANOTHER COUNTRY AND WILL REQIURE MY HELP TO TO BECOME
A CITZEN IN U.S. AND I OFTEN WONDER IF ONCE ALL THIS IS DONE. WOULD HE ME DONE WITH ME?. HE HAS NEVER
BEEN MARRIED HAS NO CHILDREN.. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TWICE AND TWO GROWN KIDS AND A GRANDBABY...
MY YOUNG MAN CLAIMS HE IS OK IF WE NEVER HAVE CHILDREN..I FEEL THAT ONE DAY HE MAY HAVE REGRETS
AND MOVE-ON WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN HAVE CHILDEN. WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YRS AND
HE TREATS ME LIKE A QUEEN, NO OTHER MAN HAS TREATED ME LIKE HIM. I'M JUST CONCERN ABOUT HIM
IN THE FUTURE HOW WILL IT PLAY OUT FOR HIM? HOW ABOUT THE FACT THAT I WILL SOON START GETTING MORE
WRINKLES AND HE WILL HAVE THE SMOOTH BABY FACE HE HAS NOW FOR A FEW MORE YEAR. THIS MAN TELLS
ME EVERYDAY HOW BEAUTIFUL I AM AND HOW MUCH HE LOVES ME..I DO FEEL THIS LOVE FOR ME. I HAVE TRIED TO
BREAK IT OFF WITH HIM , START A NEW LIFE, BUT WE MISS EATH OTHER SO MUCH THAT WE ARE SO UNHAPPY
WHEN WE ARE APPART? SHOULD I MARRY HIM OR NOT...HE HAS PROPOSED FOR THE 3RD TIME OFFERING ME HUGH RING AND NICE HOME.? HELP
Serrena Serrena
46-50
4 Responses May 21, 2012

I would say you would know if he is using you. I thought I was in love with a man about 30 years younger than me. I always had this nagging feeling that he was cheating. I found out he was, he was using me. But I have met another man, younger than me, but not as many years, I know, without a doubt, that he loves me and he is not a cheater, I know it, just like I knew the other one was dishonest. I have my reservations about us, but only because of age. He is from a foreign country but he wants me to come there to him. I have never clicked with anyone as I do with him. We even say the same things at the same time. I love him so much, he is tender, sweet and kind. I look younger than my age, many people think I am closer to his age. I am determined to do whatever it takes to look good for him, although he says I look just fine as I am.

Same with my husband hes from another. Country but he has visited me twice now I'm newly prego and he will become a citizen but only you know if its real

My story is so very similar but I am about 10 years further down the road. Please read my posts for some insight. Everyone is different but I wish I had listened to my instincts more at the beginning of our relationship.

My husband is 10 years younger than me and your words of :
I FEEL THAT ONE DAY HE MAY HAVE REGRETS
AND MOVE-ON WITH SOMEONE WHO CAN HAVE CHILDREN.
sent alarm bells off in my head for you. Listen to your gut its very rarely wrong even if we want it to be.

My now husband still adores me and we are so perfect together in every other way. You don't say where he is from, but please consider that things we are oh so sure about in our younger years can dramatically change as we get older, especially the biological and cultural pressures to have our own children can come without bidding when we least expect them and have no control.

I also feel that sometimes the notion that you can't have something is enough to push some people into a desperate desire to have that which they suddenly feel they have missed out on.

In my husbands case he never wanted children of his own until he hit 38 a bit like a mid life crisis he suddenly started thinking about getting older who would be there for him apart from his older wife. He started to fantasize about how his children would look, what names he would have chosen. Just because we are more familiar with women getting broody does not mean men do not experience this overwhelming need to reproduce. He didn't want these feelings but they were powerful and messed with his head and were the main reason for his straying into an affair with a woman almost 20 years younger than me. I can't begin to tell you how painful that is. And how guilty and worthless he feels for having hurt me so deeply.

I wish you happiness than will last a lifetime ...for both of you

my dear if you really love this man I dont see anything wrong, its not about the age what matters is love, do you need age or do you need someone who love you most, and God never guide anyone who to marry at how old what the most important thing God is love.