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I Am Married

To Wonderunwalled-it Wasn't Lust

By: Duchessforthright
Written on April 12th, 2012

 

It was love at first sight. I told everyone at the party that I was going to marry him. My date was amused, I was determined and my future husband had no clue.

What I want, I grab:)

I treat him like a king, but I hold the reins. My mummy taught me well.

He still has no clue.

LOL

He is my friend, my teacher and my only lover.

He claims he is the best.

Maybe he still has no clue.

LOL

He is mine now - hook, line and sinker.

We each have a motto in the house.

His is "happy wife, happy life" and mine is just as simple.

Happy life, happy wife.


DF

By: Duchessforthright
Age: 46-50
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  • ShiningSon
    ShiningSon

    Ha, how would things go, if someone else like you saw him at a party tomorrow and said a similar thing, and she set her heart on having him, and she was 20 years younger, and a notch more voracious, charming, and determined. Could your wonderful story, and your bombastic confidence withstand a challenge? A Monika Lewinsky entering the scene.

    "Oh" you might say, "He loves me so much, my claim is certain." So he has given you all of his heart, and nothing can challenge that? To some that sounds sweet. To me, that sounds like convictions or beliefs that are beyond challenge, and which can never be tested, so aren't worth much really. Or at least aren't worth anything more than the value you ascribe to them.

    A friend of mine got divorced, and ran away with a Japanese women, who also left her husband, and i loved that story, but I remind them both, that they must now forever more live in a freer realm, a realm where if the same thing happened again, and one or either of them fell in love with someone and ran away, they'd have to accept it with grace and poise, as that is the nature of their relationship.

    Aug 20, 2012
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    • Duchessforthright
      Duchessforthright

      We have been tested and tried many times. Not as far as Monica scenario though. No marriage is perfect. We survived and I'm confident we will do so for many more years;)

      Aug 23, 2012
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  • GarciaMarquez
    GarciaMarquez

    "I treat him like a king, but I hold the reins." I love this. The balance of power within a healthy relationship is never straightforward and it never should be.



    In so few words you have conveyed so much which is quite a feat. I hope the simple circle which is your formula for happiness remains unbroken. It sounds like it will.

    Apr 22, 2012
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    • Duchessforthright
      Duchessforthright

      Thank you. This post was not easy to write. I'm not a minimalistic writer lol.

      Apr 24, 2012
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  • zzltfrg
    zzltfrg

    That is a sweet story!



    It is strange how often one or both partners seem to know, somehow, even if their union seems to be unlikely. I think one of the oddest examples relates to Valerie Eliot, second wife of the famous poet, TS Eliot. When Eliot, years older than her, already married and famous, visited her school, she just knew she would one day marry him. It was something beyond a schoolgirl crush. And she did marry him.

    Apr 16, 2012
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    • Duchessforthright
      Duchessforthright

      Yes..one just knows it...a matter of time only;)

      Apr 18, 2012
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  • hillbillycrone
    hillbillycrone

    I love the Happy Wife, Happy Life motto, sooooo true!

    Apr 13, 2012
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  • vegassquire
    vegassquire

    Sounds too good to be true .... who is hiding what? :)

    Apr 12, 2012
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    • Duchessforthright
      Duchessforthright

      You don't believe in love or love at first sight hmmm? ;)

      Apr 12, 2012
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    • vegassquire
      vegassquire

      It is so not that .... it is the opposite, I believe in it at first sight, just not so much the next day. It always fades on me.

      Apr 12, 2012
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    • Duchessforthright
      Duchessforthright

      Then it is not love at first sight..could be love at first bite? I'm kidding. I understand what you mean;)

      Apr 18, 2012
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  • datura
    datura

    I think you are both lucky to have found each other!

    Apr 12, 2012
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    • Duchessforthright
      Duchessforthright

      Thanks Dat. I guess we are. But like all relationships not only love but laughter, patience, responsibility and occasional 'wake up calls' can be good for us too:) xx

      Apr 12, 2012
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