I've been married for 2 1/2 years to my best friend of 18 years, and I wonder sometimes "why I did it?" He has ptsd and an Iraq vet, it constantly weigh on my marriage. I get frustrated at times because my husband does not share with me alot. But I hope it gets better!

lady44 lady44
41-45, F
5 Responses Feb 23, 2009

Thanks to all who commented!

Thank you Loyaldude!!

mslaurie, I too have PTSD however I am much older than your husband and all I can say is that I'm sure he has been diagnosed by the VA and that is why you say he has it. The best thing to do is be there for him and when he wants to talk he will until then DON'T push it. He will have to divide what he had experience with what his has with you. Be firm with him but not combatant. Be a friend and a partner and you have a great history with him of being friends for 18 years. He will eventually figure out what he will do with his PTSD and it could take a day or decades from now. Sorry I don't have a definitive answer for you. May God bless the two of you.

MS Being in the Army myself and having a bit of ptsd . It is better if he can help himself and get therapy.<br />
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If you push him he may shut down more.<br />
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Hun you have to take care of yourself and ask god for the strength to help you.

My husband has PTSD too. He doesn't share with me too much either. I just make sure that he knows that I'm willing to listen if he's willing to share. There really isn't much we can do but be patient and keep loving them. I refuse to let PTSD take my husband from me.