Where Do I Even Begin.....

My husband of 3 wonderful years is on his 3rd deployment as I speak. Now granted this deployment is nothing compared to his last. In 2009 he was deployed to Afghanistan and we were already doing the long distance thing. Long story short it was one of the hardest things to go through. All my friends wanted to do was party with their boyfriends and didnt understand what I was going through so basically i didnt have friends. This time around my husband gets to call me everyday (so far) and we can skype as well. He is still state side until January. Doesnt seem too bad right? Well one minor detail I am 15 weeks pregnant with our first child.....I never thought I would have to go through pregnancy without him and man it is tough. Granted this time I have wonderful friends who truely care and are there for me. I think also living on my own has been a challenge as well, because during his last deployment I was still living at home. I am trying to stay strong but some days all i want to do is cry. He most likely wont be able to be there for the birth since his deployment isnt over until a few months after my due date. I guess Im looking for advice on how to handle this alone........
akopil akopil
22-25, F
1 Response Nov 27, 2012

Surround yourself with friends and family...and maybe, if you plan ahead, he can sort of be there for it. Maybe he can skype over there too (we were able to when I was there but every mission and every location is different) and maybe it would work out that you can skype through labor. If that doesn't work out - video it. I know that may be awkward but trust me when I say he'll want to see it. I didn't want anyone in when I gave birth but I let daddy be there because it's an amazing thing for him to see. And if he wasn't there I would have let someone video it so he could see... In the meantime - like I said surround yourself with friends and family. Write down everything - baby's first kick, baby got hiccups, etc. Then when you talk you can tell him about it. I know it sucks but you can do it. Not to minimize it - but women do it all the time and I suspect you are just as strong as they are - if not stronger.