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am missing something in my life....I am a very affectionate person who is with a man who is quite less so....it has been a huge burden for many years . We share a child together, are not married but I keep running into the same stumbling block when it comes to affection...
I end up realizing I am wasting my life with this person who is so self absorbed into his work and personal pursuits .
I am angry at him, and myself...mostly myself...and end up completly dispising myself for all my flaws..being the reason he just cant connect with me...
Weeks will pass without us being intimate.....but its not just the sex thing...holding hands kissing hugging just for a minute making me the centre of his world would be enough...
I get so hurt and rejected by it all....yet he sits there and just says I am an unhappy person...
I am not unhappy in life in general....but I dearly wish for human connection.....he has massive hangups that he will just never deal with....and has never been able to kiss me...
Im not a swamp creature....I have a slim body dark hair and olive skin...I am fit...reasonably good looking...yet I end up feeling like the biggest ogre and heap of crap....I realise I sound needy...but I just want a normal reasonable amount of affection and closeness,.,,I dont want to be in his pocket every day....I know he's not cheating on me....as he doesnot have the time...I know where he is...he works and comes home doesnt go to bars or hang out with friends...so thats not it...
He just doesnt need closeness.....I feel so empty and ask all the time why are we together if your not into me and only can reject me...he is otherwise a good person...but this lack is turning me into a freakshow...and I hate who I am becomming...and the brewing anger that is stirring....
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  | Posted Sep 20th, 2009 at 7:14PM I know exactly how you feel. My relationship is the same although I do get all the cuddles and kisses just no sex. We need to realise that it isn't our fault, we are healthy women that have a healthy urge to make love to the man we love. My boyfriend is also always telling me that I am an unhappy person and he doesnt relaise or doesn't want to face that it is this sexless relationship that is giving me hang ups about myself. I have recently decided that I will have to leave him, I dont know how I am going to get though it or know how to live without him in my life as we were extremely close but just think about down the track, things always happen for a reason and imagine when you meet the right person who is finally on your page when it comes to sex.   |
 | Posted Sep 20th, 2009 at 7:29PM Hi there,ive read your story & honestly do feel your anger+pain.. Look,its easier said than done,but move on emotionally,i know its not easy but try. This is how you go about doing it;-tell yourself every morning+eve that you're beautiful hot & sexy.Play happy music that uplifts your spirit & dance around with the kids while music is playing,make yourself look good-like do your hair,makeup+wear sexy yet classy clothes... Dont bring up the topic to your partner again,show him that youre happy and fine. Trest me,he,ll come to you and do all those little things that actually makes+means a big thbng to you.. How long have you been with this man for? does he always just sit 4nfront of the computer most of the time? Please i would love to hear from you soon- do answer me. Thanks. |
 Feeling relieved | Posted Sep 20th, 2009 at 7:31PM You ask him and what his answer? I think you've been straight with him.Was he honest and sincere too? You're starved for affection and yeah, you're unhappy. I'd be too. He has to think of your needs and feelings. If he isn't listening, taking action or getting a new plan..Time to re-think the relationship. Everyone wants to be touched and loved on. It's a need and not a small one either. You need a better love. |
 | Posted Sep 21st, 2009 at 1:02AM Thanks for your comments..guys..... The update is things only got worse as he read this story and now Im apparantly disturbed for doing this....there is an updated story...I really feel so isolated...i just want to crawl under a rock....and fester... |
 | Posted Sep 21st, 2009 at 5:22AM oh hon, you are perfectly normal for feeling this way. and you have every right to express needs in any relationship. if your needs aren't being met, maybe it's time to start looking elsewhere for those needs to be met. have u thought of joining a group outside the home...a support group. this is a great way to start getting those hugs, support groups are so huggy! so is church. and it's a great way to figure out what you want to do next. just spend less time at home and you'll find your path. even finding a group for your child and yourself would be great. just something that is for you, is what you need. and time. just let go of the idea that he will ever give you that closeness you need. he's not the one to fill that need. and then you can move on and find great happiness. i assure you this. sending big hugs ********hugs******* |
Feeling relieved | Posted Sep 21st, 2009 at 5:10PM Now he's just taking an easy shot at you knowing it'll work. You have he right to vent feelings. He won't honor your feelings. He doesn't want you to share them and make him look bad. It's a free world. That abusive. Mental and emotional .Controling and mean. He's the problem. How easy to convince you that YOU have the problem. Cheap ploy but it can be a big pay off for him. You feel worthless and he feels superior. Tell him you KNOW how you feel and he can listen or not. He'll choose not. His big pay off is you're down and he's 2 up on you. No way. |
| Posted Sep 21st, 2009 at 5:48PM Thank you so much guys for listening.....your comments and support and logic mean alot to me.... |
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