Stuck-up Snobby *#@&*

I'm not sure if I'm misunderstood, or misjudged. Maybe it doesn't make a difference, but this is my story:

I've been quiet and shy all of my life. Despite my shyness, I remained fairly active throughout my school years, including being a cheerleader. Crazy, I know, and to this day I ask myself why I did it. I hated it! Standing in front of the entire school, having them stare at me. Why did I put myself through that? Maybe that's where part of the confusion or misunderstanding came from, because despite being a cheerleader, and a girl most would consider to be pretty and popular, I was so shy and insecure. Walking down the hall at school I would have no idea what to say to others. I didn't want them looking at me so I didn't look at them. I got labled "stuck up". I'm sure there's a more current word in today's world. That word was so hurtful, and it was so untrue. My own sister used it against me.

Today I struggle with the same problem and hear words like anti-social, awkward, snobby, *****, etc. If only those people would take the time to get to know me they would see that I have a very soft heart, am forgiving, accepting, and non-judgmental.
tranqilbreeze tranqilbreeze
46-50, F
6 Responses Jul 7, 2012

oh ya i can relate...junior high, and high school were a long time ago...but the memories are fresh and clear...i was very shy and quiet too...i was labelled "snob", "b&^ch", "stuck up"....none of them had any idea, i was just painfully shy...

This kind of comment perpetuates the problem, making your anxiety even more extreme. Its sad because you obviously have a lot to give, if people would take the time to get to know you.

Thanks you, Avatarunknown. =)

And I have been like this all my life and some times I wish that I was some body else and there has been a few little of people that can make me fill like there is nothing wrong with me. I hope that people that was in special ed, this filling is normal.

I also can relate to this I am the same why but I got called selfish and a neard and I got told I was scard to open up to people. And people told me that I was sweet and smart and a good girl and my brothers and sisters needed to be like me, when only I'm just realy shy and quiet. I'm the youngest out of my brothers and sisters so I get treated like the baby out of all of them and I am every lade back and I don't go and hang out with alot of people that is because i'm just shy and quiet. So I understand how you fill. I'm glad you shard your story.

I think people misunderstand me too. Some people have told me that they thought I was stuck- up, snobby, or aloof. Then they get to know me, & they will say to me"OMG! you are so funny or you are so nice, smart...I think it's because when I first meet someone, I don't talk a mile a minute. I'm polite, but I want to hear about you first. When I turned 50, I read a book called the "Introvert Advantage". That book discribed me to a tee. Tears streamed down my face cuz I realized there was nothing "wrong" with me.I was living in a world of extroverts who do not understand introverts. Since I learned more about myself thru this book, I feel so much happier(I always felt happy). I understand myself better& it has really helped my relationship with my husband. We are not "wrong". Just different. & that is interesting

Thank you so much for your response - I'll definitely have to check out Introvert Advantage. I do agree that a lot of people simply don't understand others who are not the same as them. My husband says he's learned a lot about introverts since meeting me, and his family is trying to learn as well (we've been together 10 years). Thanks again, and best wishes to you.

Some time introverted is mistaken as shy. There is nothing wrong with being a deep thinker before you take action.<br />
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In todays high paced society there are many who just act now and dam with the consequences. <br />
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When I was in school I was very shy but was the lead on the school swim team. Over time, I was able to grasp my introvered process and learn to project myself. It was not simple, but I did learn that I could also make quick decissions even though they were sometimes wrong. I learned to not second guess myself and accept that it was ok to be wrong.<br />
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Now, some 55 years later and a retired arbitration officer, driver examiner 2, and a Captain in the military I think life is so much fun. I enjoy both th introverted and extroverted parts of my self.<br />
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I wish you the best in your self discovery. Drop me a line sometime if I can help.<br />
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