I Guess I've Hit Rock Bottom.

I guess I came here for some kind of support system from people who might understand. Tonight my husband of ten years and I had another fight about my weight and lack of exercise. When we married I was 27 years old skinny (size 8) with high blood pressure and underactive thyroid controlled by medication. Now I am 37 years old, fat size 24 with the same health problems but I fatigue more easily. He tells me that he is not attracted to me in one breath and that he is worried about my health in another. It is possible that he might mean well but he continues to destroy the little self esteem that I have. I really don't know what else to say.
Fatnunhappy Fatnunhappy
36-40
5 Responses Nov 26, 2012

I honestly don't know if anything I could say might help you. I am new here myself and looking for my own answers, but I thought I would try.

It is obvious to me that you are worried about your own health. Speaking from experience I can say that reaching out like you are is definitely the first step. When I wrote my own story and pressed Post, I felt like a small weight had been lifted off my heart. So I hope you have had a similar experience.

Sometimes the people closest to us are the worst type of support. They don't know what to say to us and they often choose the wrong thing. You might think that the ones who know you best would understand the best, but sometimes I think what it actually does is give them a greater ability to hurt you, whether they mean to or not.

I would like to think that your husband is truly worried about you, the way I know my family is about me, but it doesn't make his attitude any easier to handle. You need to keep the lines of communication open, though it is one of the hardest things to do. Tell him you need his support and encouragement, which is not how you feel right now.

I hope you know too, as I am now grateful to know, that there are people out there who want to support you. I see it here on this site, and I hope you do too! You'll be in my thoughts.

I know thats got to be a terrible feeling but you have to decide if staying obese is worth your life and your marriage

Hi I'd like to help u when will u be online?

Also the diet im referring too does not require working out.. i myself am lazy. but laziness comes from being over weight.

Hi.. ive recently starting gaining weight due to a loss in the family ( im very stressed ) i have went online and found an amazing diet. Im starting it in december. There are many many many success storys, on youtube.. the diet has even popped up on tv talk shows such as Dr. Oz. It is affordable and seems like all the people who do it our just amazed. Its Called HCG DIET, its a hormone females produce when they are pregnant that takes the abnormal fats and turns them into nutrients for their babies. Imagine taking it when you are not pregnant and it only attacts your abnormal fat tissue. LOOK IT UP not being rude but you would feel way better about yourself. your sleeping more because your over weight.. also. in regards to your husband.. he misses the old you when he says nasty things. he says nasty things as well to probably encourage you to strive for a better life for yourself.