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Intimidation

I guess I always try to make everyone around me comfortable.

If I'm around other smart people, I'll talk on their level, but if I'm with people who aren't so smart, I talk to them on their levels.

My husband is also very intelligent, and I can't stand to see him with his mother and his family. They just seem like they're lording the size of their brains over the far more inferior non-geniuses. It just grates. No one asked to be unintelligent. What would it possibly accomplish for you to make someone else feel like dirt?

I guess I just don't need that validation...I read professional journals, and I understand them. Before I quit work to stay home with my kids, I worked with PhD's and talked to them in their language, and knew what I was doing. I have had professionals in my field with their master's degrees and nearly 20 years experience defer to me and tell me I knew more than they did about the job. I *like* doing math puzzles. I pride myself on a big vocabulary. I just don't feel the need to announce it from the hilltops.

 

onceandfutureglow onceandfutureglow 31-35, F 8 Responses Mar 26, 2008

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I feel like a genius after reading some of the stories here.

Glowy, I know what you mean from a slightly different angle. My mother-in-law used to put me down at every opportunity in company. Her youngest son married a Chartered Accountant and he himself is one. They divorced 2 kids and 10 years later. Their kids were brought up by a new nanny every year, usually one that traded taking care of the kids to learn English.

I stopped working when I fell pregnant with my first (actually I was on 7 months bed-rest) and stayed home with the three children we had in total. It was a decision we made together before we married. I wanted to be home with my children. We struggled financially, but willingly sacrificed for something we believed in. My m-i-l would tell everyone that I sponged off my husband and was too lazy to work. My kids went through difficulties and challenges and scared the living daylights out of us a few times. But our boys are well-adjusted, high IQ, caring, conservationist, world-savvy, friendly, respectful, wonderful adults. Which is all I wanted to achieve in the 27 years I've invested in them so far. She can blow out as much hot-air as she likes! X@

Covert brains :) The best kind, I feel. You get a lot farther with people if they feel like they can relate to you. (And it takes smarts to know that.)

Heh. Easy to do, Jon. :-) I forget to look at the dates on stories half the time too...Still relevant I guess, or people would delete them. I find it hard to delete things that I have written though. Maybe it's something I should work on...

Jon - Thanks for the comment. :-)



Hmmm...lots to think about in that comment. I guess I was sort of announcing it from the hilltops by posting the story. I would like to point out that this was one of the first stories I wrote at EP before I really had friends here and knew what the site was about. Back then, whenever I met someone new here, I would comb through their experiences and join anything that remotely fit me. (Sort of trying to uber-define myself, I guess.) Two years later, and I only join a group if I have a story to write at that moment.



I don't really feel like this bothers me. Other than in the moment, and I usually just ignore it. They are how they are, and will continue to be. I don't feel like I'm clamoring for the validation. Just an experience group that reminded me of something that annoys me when it happens. Not a challenge to my self esteem. (Plenty of things do, but this is not one! :-)



I guess my point was, we are all humans, and should be kind to each other. Not try to get some kind of ego trip by something as stupid as intellect. Build up, not tear down.



And you are not too probing or intimate. I put the story out there for anyone to comment.

right - having love and respect for your fellow man is what it's about...

exactly.

I am exactly the same way. I think you just try to make people feel comfortable. That's what I try to do. Some people have more education than others and some are just blessed with a higher then average IQ. People rarely choose to be stupid.