We Buried The Hatchet Today - And Not In Each Other!!

I called and spoke to the ex today. He actually picked up the phone which really shocked me.
We talked for an hour and forty minutes. 
I laughed, cried, he laughed, we talked. I told him everything that was on my mind - nothing left.

I was able to obtain the much needed closure to help me move on from where I was. 
I know that this year I am working with my therapist to develop who I am, what I need and what boundaries are necessary and safe. 
I was able to tell the ex what really hurt me, that yes, I am angry and time may heal that. 

He told me we could always be friends. We still do care for each other - but we can not be together.

I told him that I may be able to be friends sometime in the future, but not all at once. 

I needed this closure. 
NeopolitanSkye NeopolitanSkye
36-40, F
4 Responses Mar 1, 2012

Excellent! job Neo. I today got a great bit of closure for my lost LoML.<br />
I actually felt the weight lifting, too...so much so that I came home and cleaned the kitchen. ;)<br />
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(the inside joke here is that I can't stand a dirty kitchen, and hadn't touched<br />
it since him moved out 4 days ago.) eek!<br />
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I too, like the balloon image meditation, thanks for offering that bit of wisdom Lorilogic.

I find that each thing I address that causes me pain just kind of floats away, like a balloon. Instead of being a heavy anchor being wrapped around my neck. I use that visualiaztion when meditating. A big hot air balloon floating gently away from my consciousness, filled all the hurts and resentments that I carried around for so long..<br />
I am so happy for you

Lorilogic that is awesome - I will have to try that.

Good for you. Do you feel like a weight has been lifted? What a great thing!

I really do feel that not only a weight has been lifted, but I am truly more peaceful. The closure provided me with an opportunity to vocalize everything I was holding inside. I feel much, much lighter!

Thanks. I do too.